My mil got divorced a few months ago(not her first) and would not speak to anyone for the first two month. Now she calls my husband at least five times a day. She has never really talked to me except to tell me how much she liked my husbands ex or what I need to do or not do so her son will like me. She really thinks this is just a fling to him and the fact that we are married doesnt mean anything. She has pushed everyone away by making comments about how her kids and family members should not have any contact with her ex husband. She wants my husband to stay with her and gets mad when we do things without her. I am tired of her always getting her way just to keep the peace. She says things to me when my husband leaves the room and then denies them when he confronts her. She says I should not tell him what she says to me. He thinks that I am making things up. There have been times when I have thought about leaving him just to get away from her. I love my husband but can not deal with her trying to start fights. I am thinking about recording conversations just so my husband will stop believing her.
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4 Responses to “Why does everyone avoid me?”
Have been there, and wanted to tape mine also, as she denies things in front of my Husband that I am making things up, As far as I can see things are not going to get any better, as with mine things only got worse, she now has his 2 sisters involved…. You have to tell your Husband it’s you or them…. and will have to make a choice,if it’s you GREAT,if it’s them Good ridance, to all of them, and get a better choice next time… that sides with you, as Right now I see he sides with them, and just is in denial but has to be woken up..Any Man that does not stand up for his wife, that he suppose to love and Charish, is not worth keeping, hand him back !!!!!
i think recording the conversation is a great idea. just make sure that you get your hubbys forwarding address for when you send the tape to him. if hes not willing to stand by you - NO MATTER WHAT - then its time to get rid. he’ll come back with his tale between his legs - and probably without her in towe.
My husband did the same thing at first….My MIL and In laws are crazy and mean. We would go to their house for dinner. My MIl, FIL BIL and his trailer trash wife ( along with her mother) would be there. The Trashy SIL and her mother would start by saying rude things to me - when my husband was not around. Then the MIL and SIL would be just B*tchy when my husband waas not aorund. I finally told him he had to sit by me the entire time we were there and LISTEN to what they would say to me. I made him repeat after me ” Do not talk to my wife like that” once he started listening he knew we had a serious problem with the in laws. Guys tend to tune out the girls talking.My did…not anymore.We have - after 4 years of miserable squabbling discontinued communicatio with the idiots he calls his family. No holidays, no calls, nothing….We are happy and at peace with ourselves.Nice solution if you can live with it.
You need to tell your MIL to knock it off or you will tell everyone what she is saying and doing - Good Luck.
I’ve considered it myself…especially if you are texter. One day when you are talking with her, act like you are texting, but hit the video thing instead. It may only record one minute at a time but you can make more than one video without her realizing it!