I’m not sure where to start. My fiance and I are supposed to be getting married in 4 days but I’m not sure I want to sing myself into his family. That is ONLY because his mother makes me crazy. She is the kind of person that says snide things to me when he’s not around, then talks to him as if she just loves me. She is also very uncensored and blunt. While shopping for suites to wear for the “wedding” (it’s very informal) my fiance found one that he really loved. He called me all excited and said it made him look slimmer but it was kind of pricey and he wasn’t sure she’d be okay with the price (she was paying half) but it was the one he wanted. So, he called her and this was her response to her own son,”Well, maybe you should loose weight to look thin instead of buying a suit to do it for you…” Mind you, this if from a woman who went about a year and a half ago to get a tummy tuck and lipo to look better. Also, she always complains that her mother says the same type of comments to her. How could a mother say something so hurtful, and now when confronted by me about is claims she was only joking. What? Another prob. I am up against is that I have a daughter by another man, she’s 7 and very intelligent, and my fiance and I have a daughter who is 5 months. Before our baby was born the MIL would do fun things with my daughter and buy “stuff” for her and was very kind to her. Except that she forces her to use a sippy cup at her house and once made her wear a pull up after we told her not to put it on my daughter. Since the birth of our baby the MIL acts as if my daughter is not important and just some kid, she still makes her use a sippy sometimes after being asked not to (my 7 yr. old has also told her that it makes her feel like a baby), and is blatantly more loving to the baby.
This woman is wrecking our relationship. I don’t know if I can stay with the man I am totally in love with because of his mother. Lately I feel like he defends her and takes every chance to explain/justify her actions to me and that he disregards that my feelings are being hurt and that our children should not be treated the way she treats them. Any advice on how to deal with her and save my relationship?

This post was submitted by carrie.