My mother-in-law is coming from out of state with her husband and they are staying for 25 days! That is almost a month!!! How do I deal??? Please help!
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10 Responses to “The Visit”
Drinks lots of alcohol and try to stay out of the house!!
When my MIL and FIL come to visit, not only do they stay for a MONTH at a time, they drive down in this dump of a camper that is parked in front of my house which will have a nice bright orange electrical cord running from the camper to the house! UGH…
What really bothers me is that they do not realize how difficult a month long visit is. By the time they leave, I am so miserable, I don’t want to see them until the next year.
I feel your frustration!! And if your husband is anything like mine, he will take you away for a nice long relaxing weekend after they leave.
Oh lord, my heart goes out to you!!! If it were me, I would get me a few good books to read over the next 25 days. That is how I usually check out and keep to myself when my MIL is around. Good Luck Hunny!!!!
Why not treat her (your MIL) as you would like to be treated? My MIL never treated me nice. She rarely talked to me for many years, she is deceased now and I have no regrets over any thing I said or did to her. I tried very hard to be kind to her, in hopes that she would reciprocate, but I was never accepted.
OMG Wildjacs…that sounds just like National Lampoons Christmas Vacation!!
Do they have to stay with you? Can they stay at a hotel? It’s hard to have anyone staying with you for that long…let alone the inlaws. If they have to pay to stay somewhere maybe they won’t stay as long!
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Wildjacs, I feel your pain and agree with you and sosbmh- a month is too long for anyone to stay with you, let alone the in-laws. I think they should get a hotel but I am doing it for my husband because it makes him happy. And funny you mentioned books, Kristel, because that is exactly what I have been doing- disappearing to my room and reading!
And Mitsy, I totally agree we should treat our MILs the way we would like to be treated but sometimes even that doesn’t work with difficult and domineering people. (though we should still continue to treat them that way, i believe) Anyway, thanks for the replies and the moral support- I really needed it! It’s just a really tough time and I’m trying not to get depressed about it.
my in laws lives with us and i am so miserable!
Try to work late and make up excuses…They are more than happy to have more time with their son alone…My MIL is staying with me, teh one day I stayed home for dinner, I had to listen to her talking down to me for three hours in front of my husband..Saying things like we want to get our own house because we want to sell this house that we live in (it belongs to my husband, his brother, and his mom) and get the money…altough we already told her that WE DON’T WANT THE MONEY a million times!!!!! Good luck to you and stay alive!!
I could not live with my MIL.. she is too close at 15 miles away. But since they have decended upon you with no regards to you or your life, treat them as if they really did live there. Don’t feel obligated to to do anything for them, go to the mall, library, the nearest town dump and think of how much better it is then being there with them!!! And then suggest that you and your husband have decided that they really need some time alone, for romance and stuff, and that you have already you booked a wonderful hotel room for a few days, if you can afford it…(personally, with my MIL, my sanity comes more important then the car payment!)and that they can either go and enjoy it, or you two will and would they please be so kind as to get a few things that you’ve been meaning to get done while you are gone?!!! And tell them that the room isn’t able to be cancelled, because it was a last minute reservation— on-line of course! Never hurts to try. Best of luck to you. and if you need any ideas for reading material…let us know!!!
find a cheap hotel for her, or a nice one for you:-)