Someday She Might Move In! I tell all the young people I work with this, because it happened to me 14 months ago. I haven’t counted time in months since my son was 2 years old. This is truly the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my 51 years of life and I don’t see any legal end in sight. Due to financial stupidity she had to move in with us. I personally think a mother should live with her daughter when something like this happens but she choose us, mainly because my 17 year old son insisted. She never even asked my husband or me if she could, but here she is and let me tell you I have never seen anyone as lazy or selfish as her. Her idea of helping me is to stay out of my way while I do all the work around the house. Of course that’s after I work a full time job as a server in a family restaurant. So after working all day I have to come home and wait on her sorry ass, cook, do dishes, clean, laundry etc… She stays in bed til at least noon every day and stays up til at least 3am watching TV. My place of employment is now my happy place and anyone who has ever worked as a server can tell you it’s not often a happy job. Sometimes after work I just sit in my car in the parking lot for a while because I hate the thought of what’s waiting at home for me. If it wasn’t for my son I might not go home at all. I hope he knows if he leaves home he has to take her with him. I have a lot more to say but I’ll save it for next time if anyone cares to hear it.
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Her name is Patricia. By day, she is Mrs. Corporate America, by night, she is an “Ann Landers” of sorts. Patricia is the founder of the internationally-recognized website, motherinlawhell.com.
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10 Responses to “The Best Reason Never To Get Married–”
Have your husband give her a list of chores.
Help her set goals to pay off her debt or sell her stuff, or whatever it takes to get her independent.
Have her move into a low income housing unit in sweet, small town!
I had the same thing, after my in laws sseperated. I had just given birth, yet got no help at all, and she even left her washing for me to do for her. She didn’t even pay any rent, yet was quite happy spending her last 20 quid in the pub.I eventually had to tell her to move out, after 6 mnths, because she trashed her room. Stand up for yourself. Ask for help in the house. Get ur husband to give her things he’d like her to do during the day. And remember, its ur house. Good luck.
OMG my husbands mother doesn’t want to take care of herself either, for the past ten years he has been paying all her bills and bought her a house to live in, well now that he has ME and two kids, he told her she needs to do something his solution was to have her move in with us so he can sell the house. she did not like that idea, even though he now has a wife and two kids to take care of she still refused to do ANYTHING to help herself. I just don’t understand it. It’s almost as if she hates the fact that she has grandkids. because her son can’t take care of her anymore and that he would rather spend his hard earned money on his kids rather then her ciggerettes and beer. ugh
OMG if your 51 years old this lady must be 71years old if she had him at 20 years old. What do you expect her to do at 70 years old? Walk in to work and break a hip? I understand how MIL’s can be but if your that unhappy put her in a home, you won’t have to worry about her anymore.
I’m sure my answer will be controversial. My mother in law attempted to force her way into our home. Literally force her way in by coming on a bus from down south and having no apartment and no place lined up to live. She had done several dishonest things. Constantly played the sick ploy. Bottom line, I refused to live with her. I did not care where she stayed and still don’t. I will NEVER live with anyone who behaves badly.
We stood our ground and she shaped up. Admittedly she had some hard times before she got settled but they were her own doing. She could have gone back to where she lived but she did not want to. She was not being abused where she was — just did not want to live there.
I have never seen any good come out of allowing anyone, especially a mother in law, to abuse you. When you take the first blow, they just keep on hitting like an old Timex watch.
Let me get this straight…you, your husband, and 17 year old son live in one house and care for your mother-in-law. You do the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. Whether she is able bodied or not, there are two perfectly good men in the house. Your husband should be doing HIS mother’s laundry. You all should be sharing chores and house duties. If she was my mother-in-law, I would give her the express job of getting the lazy men in your life to step up! She will get older and needier-you are a major push-over. I have worked as a server-and it is dog-tiring! But from your story, the men in your life work you like a slave!-Maybe she is taking her cue from them.
I think we have the same MIL!!
Mine lives with us too…and it’s a nightmare.
I can feel your pain. I’m in the same situation. My MIL use her fake sickness to trap my husband. This lady wont do anything in the house just sit on the couch day and night. She ignores me all the time. The only time she speaks to me is when she criticize how horrible my cooking and if she thinks its time for me to clean the house.
I also know where you are coming from. My MIL moved in 9 month ago after coming from a halfway house where she was for 1 year due to a drug addiction. Since then she let herself go. Doesnt do her hair, wears the same clothes for day and watching TV all day long. She also plays the sick woman. Anything that she does actually have wrong with her could be fixed by a healthy lifestyle but she keeps on living unhealthy. I just explained to my husband how he harms her instead of helping her by letting her go on like that. I had facts about recovering drug addicts in my hand and he understands and promised to lay down the law. Lets just hope he keeps it up. She also talks about me behind my back and also mentioned that she would prefer a daughter in law of her own race. My husband is african american. She grew up in the ghetto and stayed there until she moved with us. We are not like that and never will be and she doesent like anybody that has their life together, including me. There is so much more to telll but I save it for later.
I understand about lazy MIL’s…mine is so bad I have never seen the inside of her house…I’m not allowed to because it’s so “nasty” and she’s “embarrassed”!!! She’s awful with her spending…actually I should just post a story on this lol cause I’ll be here all day if I explain to what extent….I can forsee her losing her house and trying to move in with us…sorry but not happening…I’ve already told my husband this…she moves in I move out…she loves his ex-wife so much she can go there!