Mother-in-Law HELL

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years, and are beginning to look at rings, and all that jazz. I have always wanted to be close with his family… He is an only child, so I tried to make it my mission at first to be BFF with his mom.. His dad is a sweetheart, as are his aunts, cousins, etc. His mom is very cold, and also kind of obsessed with BF in a sick way.

She calls him ALL the time. She asks about everything from her printer, computer, refrigerator, sink, spoon, etc. I think she makes things up to talk to him. I try to rationalize it that she feels she is losing him- but then she does things to really hurt my feelings. She tells her hubby if BF doesn’t respond to her calls ASAP or emails or texts and FFIL gets on…

My husband is in the military and we just recently got married this summer. He and I were only together for about 6 months before he was deployed to Iraq. While he was deployed, MIL and I spent a lot of time together and became pretty close. I really enjoyed spending time with her, but was taken aback by some comments she would make from time to time. I thought it was normal, but quickly began to realize it was not. It was like she was very slyly (yet completely obviously) trying to insult me to my face.

As things progressed, the comments started getting worse and more frequent and I began to notice some tendencies of a person that I would label as completely INSANE. I remember specifically that as we were on base waiting for my husband (then boyfriend) to get off the plane from Iraq, she felt…

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now we are in our mid 30s and have a 2 year old son and we get along great……..but I never knew about his mothers side of the family being friends with 2 of his ex’s until this past year……..one (ex#1) works with his mother at her private business as of 3 months ago…SURPRISE! … and the other (ex#2) apparently has been friends with the family her whole life and goes on vacations with them. Oh if I had only known this sooner…my husband only talks to his mother and her family about twice a year, but they are very manipulative people. Ex#2 is my problem right now, she constantly writes my husband love letters via myspace and he has responded to several telling her to leave him the hell alone and that she needs to grow up but she…

Now, let me start this post of by saying that I love my MIL. She has her flaws and annoyances, but I love her very much. She’s sweet and loyal with nothing but good intentions. However, she’s also manipulative and VERY opinionated. And if we don’t do what is in accordance with her “opinion.” She gets upset.

And I also think I should add that we have only been married for 11 months.

She is manipulative, controlling and MUST have her way. She feels as if she needs to control our lives and know what we’re both doing at all hours of the day. And, control every decision we make.

For example, we were looking to purchase a grill. It was $350. But, it had all the features my husband wanted. Like an idiot, I printed out the paper and showed it to her the next time her and I met up for…

My future MIL is clingy and manipulative, and I don’t know what to do or how to talk to my future husband, “FH,” about it. MIL is divorced, she recently broke up with a boyfriend, and also moved just 40 minutes away from FH and I (she used to live about 6 hours away).

As we get closer to our wedding date , I see MIL becoming even more clingy to FH and it makes me nauseous. For example, she brought him gifts the weekend of my bridal shower because “he needs something to open” after I explicitly told her that over half the items I received at my shower were actually for him because I had registered for a number of things I knew he’d love (e.g. a high-end grill pan because we live in a condo and cannot have a real grill on our balcony and he loves to…

Ok I get along great with my mother in law. It’s my daughter I am posting about. Her new mother in law is trying to compete with me. She is manipulating things so my daughter is with her rather than me. She says little things behind my back to pull my daughter to her. She shows up every time I see my daughter and even pushed her way into helping pick out the wedding dress. She criticizes my sons for small things. She finds ways to cut me out of things and have her in my place. She is extremely manipulative and bossy and her son listens to her. Subsequently, I have had a ‘rocky’ time with my daughter who I was very close with until the MIL started in. Even in a restaurant, I end up sitting at the other end of a table rather than with my daughter,…

Help! 16+ yrs in this family. German MIL is all of the above in the titled description. She lives 2 hrs. away. She is (White) German with (3) bi-racial sons, by (3) different men. The youngest son’s father ended up marrying her. All (3) son’s married (white) German. My husband married me (Black). Oldest son was dis-owed by my MIL when he was an infant.

Recently, father-in-law passed away. I took time off from work, school, etc. to help her care for him in his dying days (cancer). He had all of his post-death legal issues prepared (including his own obituary).

On the day of his death, MIL edits & changes his pre-written obituary. The obituary lists all the titles and names of all of his survived including: wife, two grown sons, all (5) grandchildren. MIL decides last minute to include her sister who still lives in Germany, and has never been…