Mother-in-Law HELL

I’m begging you lovely ladies for help.

I am a military spouse on the brink of insanity. No one can help me. I have known my husband for almost 10 years, been his best friend for all 10, lover for 4 years, and wife for 3 years. I’m proud of him, in love with him, and he’s my soulmate. In fact, I’ve been told we’ve spent past lives together, and I would believe it because we are inseparable.

So, why should I care about my evil, selfish, manipulative, unintelligent, lying, back-stabbing, emotionally blackmailer, crocodile tearing, evil, MIL who lives in her own reality where SHE is the victim? Because I haven’t found a totally complete way to handle this yet where I can live without ever thinking about her or being bothered by her. I’m trying so hard. I really do. I take the high road. I take the “I don’t care”…

So my bf is older than I and is my cousins best friend. So b4 I started dating him I used to spend the night at his house (in the living room) cause my job was closer. His mom was super nice and we used to talk about everything. As soon as he asked me out everything went downhill. She would track us even when we were cooking, or if we walked in his bedroom to read (and we read comics! Not like we were going to shag in ears distance) she would check every five minutes. She would tell me stories about his ex-fiance hoping I’d break up with him and tell me all his faults.
Eventually she would nag me or talk about me to everyone else and have spies in my family update her on everything. I called her bitch (and she was snooping like one!) at a…

My husband and I just recently got married but, we have been together for almost 7 years. My husband also just joined the US Army, which his family was really upset about. He decided to join so that he could support his son and me, but my in-laws thought that the recruiters had just manipulated him into joining. Well since the day that we told them our decision my MIL has not spoken one positive thing about it. He left for basic training a little over a month ago and just a week after he left she said to me, “ I can’t believe that he really went, he will realize that he has made the worst decision and tell me I was right.” I just chose to hold my tongue to prevent conflict. My father in-law got a call from him because for some reason the call wouldn’t go…

After trying really hard for the last 3 years, I am coming to the conclusion that my FMIL is a really awful person. I have always gone out of my way to be helpful, polite and friendly, but I have never met someone over the age of 5 who would think it was acceptable to behave the way she does. My OH is in the process of buying us a lovely apartment which we should close on next week, but I don’t think that’ll be the end of our problems.

My OH is her only child and as a result she is hugely over protective and thinks she has the right to have unlimited involvement in every area of his life without question, his relationship with me included. But no matter how many times he tells her that he isn’t prepared to discuss these things with her, she will not give…

I’m in big trouble. I can see it already. I grew up in a horrible household. I do not considder my parents to be my parents. They are selfish people who care only about themselves. I got married at the beginning of the year to a man from Pakistan a few years older than myself. I am 20. He told me such great things about his mother. I spoke to her on the phone and I was pretty thrilled at how nice she was. I build dreams so high into the clouds of having a big family. I never told my husband how many dreams I had…he probably thinks I am lying for effect when I tell him now.

She is now sending me RUBBISH presents… and is still sooo nice to me on the phone. Of course she still wants to show me she hates me, but still does not…

The first time I met her she was drunk in bed and it was very brief. After that 30 second introduction she made a number of bold statements about me behind my back, like “F%^&ing Bitch!” – she does not know me. I let my (boyfriend at the time) DH know this and he is a man of men so of course he shut her down. Well time goes by, we marry and she was not there. So now, we love each other deeply and now she has to live with us. We give her a downstairs bedroom with her own bath and at first I included her in everything and made certain she was taken care of. That didn’t last very long, she would badger me by saying twisted things to me about my DH and say weird things to my friends when they came over. Some examples are;…

Among the many, sordid stories I could post re: my MIL, I will share this one – my husband and I got engaged two years ago and had a civil ceremony shortly thereafter because he was being deployed to Iraq. THAT WAS IN 2006. Since then, my MIL has never once acknowledged the fact that we became engaged, or married. She doesnt discuss it, acknowledge it – its as if it never happened. She never sent a card, an email, made a phone call…She never even asked to see the ring!!!!!

IS THIS NORMAL BEHAVIOR??????