Mother-in-Law HELL

So, my future mother-in-law, she’s a trip. Not one I particularly want to take. The fairest way to put it is that we have distinctly different personalities. And that she absolutely hates mine.

The more frank way to put it is that I think she’s a stank bitch.

Crudity aside, tonight’s incident kind of put the nail in the coffin of any hopes I may have held of having a functional relationship with her. Having called Sunday to invite her and the rest of my truly lovely fiance’s family over for dinner at some convenient time over the long weekend at our apartment, she finally got back to us today. And by got back to us, I mean she yet again questioned our wedding plans, and, oh yeah, what he even saw in me.

Now, I don’t claim to be perfect, and I often find myself asking myself the very same thing. Hearing…

Ugh, where do I start?!

We’re 4000 miles apart and we’re trying to sort out him moving here ASAP. We are completely miserable apart and missing each other like crazy

So, to the wedding plans: part of the problem we have is the restrictions of the Fiance Visa he’ll be coming in to my country on, which costs over $1000 and is only valid for 6 months during which time we must get married. He also can’t work until we’re married and have applied for a visa extension, which is going to be around another $750. We were originally going to get him here and wait the full 6 months before the wedding, but, after much discussion, decided to bring the wedding forward as neither of us wanted for him to be out of work for 6 months and feeling like he wasn’t contributing.

Anyway, that decision made…we found what looked to…

I warn you now, this is a bit long.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. When we first started dating I got along great with his mother. I thought she was a bit odd but nothing to batty. Boy was I WRONG!
She now hates me. She refuses to speak to me and when I do get a response out of her it is pure acid and hate. I’m not really sure when things changed but..here is a condensed version of the story.
When we first started dating I was going to college in a different state. We saw each other on a pretty normal basis but not that much time spent together. After I graduated I got a job in the same state he lives in. After that we saw each other pretty regularly.
When we started dating and I found out more about him I learned that when…

I’m devastated. I used to get along with my future mother in law, but all of the sudden I noticed that she was a bit deranged. It is not simply the horrible things I have noticed she is used to doing to my father in law and her sons, but she started venting her anger and craziness on me as well. If she could not get a hold of him, she started calling me hysterical. Out of nowhere she got some irrational tantrums, called me and started yelling and scolding me like if I were her child. I don’t know what to do. Right now I can’t even hear her name without feeling uncomfortable. I cry, get sad, get angry… even if my boyfriend talks or sees her. I understand now I am being a bit irrational. She is his mother, but I don’t know what to do. We have…

My fiance and I have been together for a little over 15 years and have been engaged since May 2009. We grew up in CA and have a 8 year old son together. Due 2 some difficult times, after our son was about 1, we were forced to move back in with my fiance’s mother (who wasn’t evil at the time). A year later we decided to move to Chicago to be closer to his sister (who also wasn’t evil at the time). We bought a house there and oddly, his sister who was oh so happy there decided she wanted to go back to Malibu. We felt completely set up! Now we had a new house and 2 year old son and NO family! The sister ended up moving back in with his and her mother after we just moved out and clearly has no intentions with moving out.

Anyways,…

In October of 2007 I met the man of my dreams. He exceeds everything that I look for in a potential soul mate. He is kind, honest, makes me laugh till I can’t catch my breath, gets along with my family, intelligent, driven, and incredibly handsome.

I had met his family shortly after we started dating. We are both extremely close with our families so it was only natural that I met them early on. My first impression of his mother was a good one. She seemed sweet, very well put together, intelligent, and very confident. My first encounter with his parents consisted of attending church and then lunch.

I consider myself a very open person…always willing to give something a try before I say I don’t like it. Attending church with his family was an eye opening experience to say the least. His family attends a pentecostal holiness church. It was…

Feeling that I am stuck between a jagged rock and similarly hard place — I absolutely loathe my FMIL and it actually brings sickness to me to think of her as a human. She has tried everything to break up her son and I including stalking, harassing, put downs, bullying, thieving from her own mother and lying about it to say its me, and it got so bad that we actually had to report her to the police for harassment. We lived in Ireland at the time of all this kicking off, and not only did we have to move in the middle of the night to a place we couldnt tell anyone about (because they lived down the road and the village was incestuous), we actually left Ireland all togethersoon after and I havent been back since. Horrific, and if I see that woman ever again, it will be…