Mother-in-Law HELL

The 2 years that my fiancé and I have been together, his mother has been inexplicably and unconditionally rude and mean to me. She says mean and untrue things about me to other members of his family (which always seem to come back to me), and also rude comments to my face. And for two years I have basically just tried to stay out of the way to avoid conflict. When they come to visit (they live several hours away), I find something else to do to let him spend time with them without me. It’s not that I was afraid to be around them, just that I have never made a habit of putting myself in uncomfortable situations. The fact that his mother has been very verbal from the start that she has no intentions and no desire to get to know me has driven me away from them…

Where to Begin??
My MIL is in her early 50’s and still acts like she is in her teens. When we first moved into our apartment she asked us if we “did it in every room yet.” She doesn’t work, just spends most of her days online and sending perverted forwards. She has a facebook and myspace account and is constantly commenting on my hubby’s friends’ pages, pics, posts, whatever. When our wedding was coming up she only posted a status that said that she had “a wedding” to attend. A WEDDING?! Your only son is getting married and it’s “a wedding??” So 3 days before the big day and she finally admits that her son is getting married, and all her lil cronies comment on how that was the first they had even heard of it. Exactly. All of her posts are about death and how her life is sooo…

When I came to pick up my daughter from my FMIL’s house she said she would no longer watch me and her son’s infant son, if my fiance did not take her food shopping this weekend. Mind you my fiance pays her nicely to watch our 5 month old, who is her grandson. I told my fiance what she said and he went back and asked her about it after I told him not to say anything. He then calls me back and said his mom denied saying it and now I feel like they’re both trying to accuse me of lying, when she lied. Her husband was right there when she said it but I’m sure he won’t get involved in the drama. All I want is for the drama to end.
She already makes comments infering that I think I’m better than her and her family. I guess because…

Wow, am I glad I found this site! I AM NOT ALONE!

My husband and I met and got engaged pretty early in our relationship. He had a daughter who was 8 mo old from a previous relationship. I sent her clothes, presents. I was excited about the idea of being a step-mom. (He didn’t have much contact with his daughter because the mother is a nut and was married to another man when she had the baby, my husband subsequently has no parental rights.) Shortly after our engagement, we found out we were having a baby…we moved up the wedding date. All that within the first 5 months. (yeah, crazy…I know). We were both stationed overseas at the time and so we never met eachother’s families. All we knew is that we were happy and having a baby. I was set to come home 4 months before him because of…