Mother-in-Law HELL

I warn you now, this is a bit long.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. When we first started dating I got along great with his mother. I thought she was a bit odd but nothing to batty. Boy was I WRONG!
She now hates me. She refuses to speak to me and when I do get a response out of her it is pure acid and hate. I’m not really sure when things changed but..here is a condensed version of the story.
When we first started dating I was going to college in a different state. We saw each other on a pretty normal basis but not that much time spent together. After I graduated I got a job in the same state he lives in. After that we saw each other pretty regularly.
When we started dating and I found out more about him I learned that when…

So this is my 3rd post now, this is the disrespecteddil here. Long suffering and wanting to suffer no more from mother in law hell. So last night, DH tells me that “nobody’s perfect” and “So what she fed our LO a chocking hazard, they lived didn’t they” and wonderful quotes like that. He wants to set up an “intervention” where me and her and him sit down and “Chat” about “MY FEELINGS” Correction-an intervention where they can gang up on me, as usual!
I am the mother of this man’s child. I am breastfeeding and have had to put up with extreme levels of stress since pregnancy due to this MIL. MIL wanted to breastfeed MY child, threatened to actually do it, when my milk didn’t come in right away (had a c section, I supplemented with formula). She made comments about how its so easy I couldnt have been…

This is an update from my earlier post “FMIL Disrespects and Controls, DH takes her side” under FMIL problems….I got many helpful comments and thank you posters, I feel so alone it helps to hear from you. Since Dh thinks I am to blame, and FMIL does nothing wrong in his eyes.

I do not want anything to do with FMIL. FMIL has basically ruined my life. My only child and she tries to be more motherly instead of grandmother and she has tried to completely take over. SHe has tried to take all my “firsts” with my only baby, and ruined my first Mothers Day..she took my baby away from me so her and Dh could have their own mothers day celebration with him, her and FSIL in babys room while I lay crying in my bed for my baby unable to move from csection days before. She force fed…

This is a very difficult situation to explain, but I will try. Before my husband and I got married, we had dated for almost 3 years, and throughout that time period, he and I helped eachother stop some self-destructive habits for the better. Throughout that time, I had an amazing relationship with his family. They always wanted to see me, and even let me spend the night at their home for some weekends, even weeks(we were under 18 or 18 at the time). He and I got engaged earlier this year, which his parents were ecstatic about, especially his mother. But we all knew that the wedding would be put off until we were out of college and financially stable. However, in July my (then fiance) and I found out I was pregnant, although we used birth control religiously. And after suffering from sexual, physical, and verbal harassment at my…

After trying really hard for the last 3 years, I am coming to the conclusion that my FMIL is a really awful person. I have always gone out of my way to be helpful, polite and friendly, but I have never met someone over the age of 5 who would think it was acceptable to behave the way she does. My OH is in the process of buying us a lovely apartment which we should close on next week, but I don’t think that’ll be the end of our problems.

My OH is her only child and as a result she is hugely over protective and thinks she has the right to have unlimited involvement in every area of his life without question, his relationship with me included. But no matter how many times he tells her that he isn’t prepared to discuss these things with her, she will not give…

I apologize for this length but feel I need to give background info. I will admit, that I can’t categorize my MIL as a MIL from hell, especially after hearing some of these stories! However she is very controlling, very judgmental, and a perfectionist. Things have to be her way, always. We have always been civil and never fought. I don’t open up to her however, and I have no desire to have a super close relationship or become friends where I tell her everything because she is judgmental. I can’t explain it unless you know her, but I see it through her reactions and the way she talks about other people.. even strangers and how they do things or run their lives. I have even limited what I tell my husband, who I should tell everything to, because I’m sick of talking to him about problems I have with…

I don’t have a “beginning-to-end” story, but I’d like to share a few specific incidents that stand out. My MIL is very unbalanced, controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. I actually did make a list of all of the things that I observed her doing, but that list is MUCH too long to post here. These are some of the highlights, though:

-She has a “thing” about my husband’s hair. He has semi-long hair, but it is always well-combed and never looks dirty or shaggy. Back when we were seeing her often, she would constantly nag him to comb or wash it, often several times a day. He had a freelance job that included public appearances/meeting with clients. She would constantly schedule him hair cutting appointments behind his back. One particular time, he directly refused to cut his hair (it was quite short and perfectly trimmed). I heard her begin to loudly…