Mother-in-Law HELL

Hey all, i’ve only just come across this website and I tell you it’s a god send! There are so many issues between my hubbys family and me and Ill have to address them at another time. Right now I’m fuming over the latest incident and could use your help. My MIL controls with money and supposedly ‘kind deeds, thus she’ll make sure we do what she wants, when she wants by buying or arranging things for us under the pretence of trying to help.
For example we’ve been married 2 years and she butts in on every romantic occasion. So we HAD to spend our honeymoon at the place she chose (the ‘family holiday’ destination my hubby practically grew up at), instead of where we wanted to go because she paid. For our last anniversary she asked us to go away with them and 4 of their friends (romantic hey?)…

I never had a huge problem with my MIL until I started planning my wedding. Now almost 2 years later I am not even on speaking terms with this women. I need advice, I’m at my wits end and this is causing major fights between me and my husband, whom I get along with perfectally otherwise.
I was dating my husband 6 years before we got married. We were tong when we meet and finished school etc before we got married. I love him to death and couldn’t be happier except for my MIL. This women causing so much stain in our marriage it’s not fair to me or my husband but I just don’t know how to make this stop.
It started with my wedding, I was having an extremly small desination wedding and a reception back home for the extended family. Now my family paid for my wedding and reception,…

My MIL was just ADORABLE when we met! She welcome my daughter and I into her DEN, that yes, at first looked like a home. She would take the time to call me and TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND HOW TO DO IT – so kind to take the pressure of my brain, day to day living had just been hopeless untill I had her – not! She even went out of her way to go to the grocery store and buy me samples of what I should buy from the where I should NOW do my grocery shopping. She even thought it would be fun to play chinese whispers with my fiance and try and make him keep snakey secrets from me- What a gem!

These are the reasons I feel so bad. You see, we just dont get along anymore and i am afraid its my selfish behaviour…

Now, let me start this post of by saying that I love my MIL. She has her flaws and annoyances, but I love her very much. She’s sweet and loyal with nothing but good intentions. However, she’s also manipulative and VERY opinionated. And if we don’t do what is in accordance with her “opinion.” She gets upset.

And I also think I should add that we have only been married for 11 months.

She is manipulative, controlling and MUST have her way. She feels as if she needs to control our lives and know what we’re both doing at all hours of the day. And, control every decision we make.

For example, we were looking to purchase a grill. It was $350. But, it had all the features my husband wanted. Like an idiot, I printed out the paper and showed it to her the next time her and I met up for…

I am so glad I found this site, I really love that I can relate to you girls! My FMIL is driving me insane… I tend to be a people pleaser but there is no way I can make that work with her. She is dead set on hating me no matter what I do. She never refers to me by name, only She and Her, his whole family does. Even when I’m around them, they barely acknowledge my presence. I will be standing right there, and they will talk to me THROUGH my fiance. “Will she does this, is she going there,” etc. It makes me feel worthless and pretty low. She constantly tells him I’m controlling, manipulating, trying to trap him, and pretty much insane. I don’t know how she came about this conclusion since she never takes the time to even try to have a conversation with…

I have talked to DH about this and he totally agrees, but has trouble finding the time to talk to MIL face-to-face. So, I need some advice on how to handle this before I blow my top on the woman. DH is nothing like this woman and I swear he must have been adopted and raised in a separate home.

I got along great with my MIL before DH and I were married. She loved me up, bragged on me to everyone (I’m going to be the first PhD of the family), and even seemed like she tried to cater to me when DH and I visited. There was only one problem, she was a little overly loving towards my then FH. But seriously a week before we got married, everything changed for the worse. We came back from our last premarital counseling session and she asked how it went. DH…

I warn you now, this is a bit long.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. When we first started dating I got along great with his mother. I thought she was a bit odd but nothing to batty. Boy was I WRONG!
She now hates me. She refuses to speak to me and when I do get a response out of her it is pure acid and hate. I’m not really sure when things changed but..here is a condensed version of the story.
When we first started dating I was going to college in a different state. We saw each other on a pretty normal basis but not that much time spent together. After I graduated I got a job in the same state he lives in. After that we saw each other pretty regularly.
When we started dating and I found out more about him I learned that when…