Mother-in-Law HELL

I have a lot of stories about my MIL, she’s a unique individual for sure who tends to say things before she thinks. This particular story is short but one that always stuck with me.

She once asked me about having children and I told her I wasn’t sure I wanted to have children. She then asked me: “Then what will you do with your life?”

I rarely am left with no response when it comes to her, this time I was speechless.

First, I want to say what a great site this is…it’s awesome to have a place to let out all the craziness my mother in law throws at me, as my girlfriends are sick of hearing about her antics and my husband will have none of it.
My husband and I have been in a relationship for two years and recently got married in a very small, private, justice-of-the-peace ceremony. Since day 1, his mother has been an issue in our relationship, despite, at least early on, my very earnest attempts to win her favor (dinners, lunch dates, movies, all arranged and paid for by me). I’ll spare you the gory details, but here are the highlights of the last two years:

1. I have three young children from a previous marriage, and he has one; his mother flat out refused to meet my children from the get go, and later explained…

My husband and I have been married almost 4 years now. My MIL started the day before our wedding when she proceeded to support her daughter announcing her engagement at the wedding! Well since then it’s just gotten worse and worse. She has begun attacking me, calling me names (like white trash), attacking MY mother, making up lies and telling everyone she knows so they will think badly of me also. My husband and his mom don’t have a great relationship since she started this 4 years ago. I have confronted her a number of times and just recently wrote her a letter explaining that I would like her to have a relationship with our children, but if she proceeds to attack me, that can’t happen. I refuse to let a woman like that be around my children. Well this letter I sent her, she read everything in a negative…

After dating my hubby (boyfriend stage) for a while, he suggests I invite her to hang out with me and my sisters. I didn’t think of this because she is a homebody but I said ok and called her. She accepted invite. We look for her, on a college campus no less, for hours. After catching up with her, via phone, after 3 hrs—she says, “i’m sleep. maybe next time.” OK….I’m pissed but I leave it alone. I tell my hubby, he doesn’t say anything…doesn’t address her, nothing.

Then, 3 months prior to his proposal to me, we take my sister, his sister out to dinner. My sister (first time mtg her) says, “what happened that night?” what does SIL say? “I don’t know her (me)! All I know is she is some girl that my brother is f**king!” ERRR—-It gets quiet. I look at her. I look at him. No…

At this moment I am on the edge of divorce because my children and myself do not need this crap with my husband and his mother. Over the past 8 years my mother in law has insulted me in front of family members and controls my husband. Or I guess you could say that my husband has pretty much ZERO balls when it comes to standing up for the children and myself. Over the many years I have cried and my husband just stands there and does nothing about it. What kind of boy calls himself a man if he can not even stand up for his wifes feelings. About a month ago my husband and I were talking about going to his parents for Thanksgiving and I told him that if we go I have just a few requests. 1. I want him to treat me as if I…

This unfortunately is a true story and happened just a few short hours ago. My child will be 3 soon, and my MIL thinks that her 2 dogs are children. They bite, bark, scratch, and annoy the hell out of anyone in the family. As soon as my child was born, it was well known that I didn’t want my baby around the dogs. She never put them out, EVER! So, eventually, I just stopped going down there. At Christmas it was the worst, because she would just sit there and hold them, rocking in her chair (creepy). Staring at me like I hurt the dogs feelings. Anyways, just today, she decided to finally address it. Well, I ripped into her like a buzzsaw, and I must admit, it feels great. I have only been married to my husband for 5 years tomorrow, but it feels like an eternity because…

Well, Me and my hubby finally saved enough money and got a place of our own in the country. Sounds nice huh? 8 months after moving in, his mom talks him into letting her move in to our guest house. Well, it would be alright if she didn’t undermind my authority with my kids, She buys them things after I tell her not to and she questions them about our personal life and uses it to her advantage. She has even has gone as far as telling my girls they can’t have something cause there mommy don’t want them to have it but if was up to her they could have it. I am trying to find ways of telling her to back off without offending and starting a war. My hubby always takes her side and tells me I need to be nice. Do you have any ideas to…