Mother-in-Law HELL

Typically, my friends’ parents love me, so when my boyfriends mom seemed the slightest bit interested in me, it hurt, and I wasn’t sure how to handle it. My boyfriend and I have been dating since our junior year in high school, and we are so in love. But I’m not used to the awkwardness of having to deal with a mother that would rather I not exist.

He treats me like an angel and is rarely home, which makes her jealous because he always wants to be with me, rather than her. On top of that, the summer before our senior year, she kicked him out. Not by any fault of his own, but because she was angry and told him not to come back. So he didn’t. My step dad took him in and he lived with me for 8 weeks during the toughest time of his life. They…

For the first three months of our relationship my boyfriend kept my existence secret from his parents. In retrospect I think he must have known how she would react and didn’t want to unleash the floodgates. Then about 5 months ago I started to notice he would act differently after speaking to his mother. Suddenly I would find us fighting about things that I thought we had an understanding about or how our time together was spent. Once we started to talk about moving in together he talked to his mother about that too and suddenly he would have concerns about me possibly being after his money. After talking about any of these issues he would come to the conclusion everything with us was fine. He never acknowledged those concerns came from his mother but it was pretty clear to me that they were.

Once he told his mother we decided…

I’m only 17 but I’m in a steady relationship with my boyfriend, and he is very serious about moving out together when it comes time for university, etc. and has even talked about marriage and how he can’t see himself without me. This is all very perfect until you account for not only his mother, but his GRANDMOTHER too- complete hatred of me! I am extremely polite when I am over at his house (I’m one of those polite to everyone types), yet I get doors slammed in my face, and screamed at for making “too much noise” while he was revving his motorbike twenty meters away. One time after a long drive to my boyfriends house his mother opened the door and told me “to get the FUCK out of the car” -out of his earshot of course.
It is now that I begin to wonder, if it gets worse…

Please, what ever comments, tidbits, advice, two cents…anything at all, please please post it. Right now, I need reassurance more than anything else, thank you so much.

The Background:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. He is 20 and I am 19. We are both in college, I would like to get my MA and he is seriously thinking of going for a PHD. Although this is not a first-time relationship for either of us, this is the first time we have both felt so strongy about a relationship. We have planned, together, to get engaged as soon as he completes his BA in two years and then to get married after his MA.
My parents absolutely love him…but, that goes without saying, after all, this is “Mother In-Law Hell” right? When I first met his parents, they were a little stand-offish. They thought that dating…

ok, so I’ll admit I’m not married nor engaged, and at this point I don’t want to be–why because of what his mother is like. I’ll marry him when that woman is 6 feet under… I’m 23 years old, 7 months prego, my boyfriend 24. We have lived together for about 2 years, and when I first met his mom…while she was still in denial about us being together, she seemed really calm, fun, and to say the least…NORMAL. I’ve always managed to keep a safe distance with his family just because for awhile things were complicated between my boyfriend and I, but she takes this as me being to good for her family and I’m stuck up and no good (because I’m not like his ex girlfriend and won’t show up unannounced and won’t call her up to hang out). It seems the second she found out I was…

Hi there,

I feel a little weird writing this but feel stuck!

I’m not married to my partner so his mother is not quite my mother-in-law (YET).

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we both want to take the leap into marriage. However his mother doesn’t want to meet me. She seems very dependent on her son and already has issues with her own daughter.

I can see that the family has communication problems and at first I thought I could change this, figuring once they met me they would fall in love and all problems would be over.

I’m not quite sure what to do. My boyfriend has been asking his parents to meet me but they still wont. I cant help but feel that if we are having problems now, what would happen if we did get married?

What should I do?

Any advice on what to do next would be…