Mother-in-Law HELL

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half now. We’re both in college  and attend the same university. We’re also from the same town and high school. I’m his first girlfriend.

When I first met his mother, she seemed nice enough. She was friendly and invited me over for dinner relatively often. Soon, things turned slightly sour as she enforced “family time” in her house. My boyfriend was to have at least 4 dinners at home per week and spend “quality family time” with her, his father, and his brother at her discretion. His father and younger brother are both laid-back and try to avoid getting involved in her battles with him. They had several family functions over the course of the summer, several of which my BF was allowed to invite friends to, just not me.

Throughout the whole summer, my 18 year-old boyfriend had a…

Last year I moved in with my boyfriend after about a year of dating. Previously, I had a small 2 bedroom apartment and he had a studio apartment, so we looked for a bigger place to rent together, and found a really spacious 4-bedroom house. It was bigger than we were looking for, but in the same price range we were expecting, has a nice swimming pool out the back, and we figured that even though it needed a bit of cleaning up it was a good find.

We moved in together on 1 July. There was a lot of work to do (the last tenants were complete slobs, and the landlord had done only a cursory job cleaning) but we slowly made progress and were starting to settle in.

Then his mother entered the picture.

She lives about 14 hours drive away, and previously would see him maybe 3-4 times a year…

Typically, my friends’ parents love me, so when my boyfriends mom seemed the slightest bit interested in me, it hurt, and I wasn’t sure how to handle it. My boyfriend and I have been dating since our junior year in high school, and we are so in love. But I’m not used to the awkwardness of having to deal with a mother that would rather I not exist.

He treats me like an angel and is rarely home, which makes her jealous because he always wants to be with me, rather than her. On top of that, the summer before our senior year, she kicked him out. Not by any fault of his own, but because she was angry and told him not to come back. So he didn’t. My step dad took him in and he lived with me for 8 weeks during the toughest time of his life. They…

For the first three months of our relationship my boyfriend kept my existence secret from his parents. In retrospect I think he must have known how she would react and didn’t want to unleash the floodgates. Then about 5 months ago I started to notice he would act differently after speaking to his mother. Suddenly I would find us fighting about things that I thought we had an understanding about or how our time together was spent. Once we started to talk about moving in together he talked to his mother about that too and suddenly he would have concerns about me possibly being after his money. After talking about any of these issues he would come to the conclusion everything with us was fine. He never acknowledged those concerns came from his mother but it was pretty clear to me that they were.

Once he told his mother we decided…

I’m only 17 but I’m in a steady relationship with my boyfriend, and he is very serious about moving out together when it comes time for university, etc. and has even talked about marriage and how he can’t see himself without me. This is all very perfect until you account for not only his mother, but his GRANDMOTHER too- complete hatred of me! I am extremely polite when I am over at his house (I’m one of those polite to everyone types), yet I get doors slammed in my face, and screamed at for making “too much noise” while he was revving his motorbike twenty meters away. One time after a long drive to my boyfriends house his mother opened the door and told me “to get the FUCK out of the car” -out of his earshot of course.
It is now that I begin to wonder, if it gets worse…

Please, what ever comments, tidbits, advice, two cents…anything at all, please please post it. Right now, I need reassurance more than anything else, thank you so much.

The Background:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. He is 20 and I am 19. We are both in college, I would like to get my MA and he is seriously thinking of going for a PHD. Although this is not a first-time relationship for either of us, this is the first time we have both felt so strongy about a relationship. We have planned, together, to get engaged as soon as he completes his BA in two years and then to get married after his MA.
My parents absolutely love him…but, that goes without saying, after all, this is “Mother In-Law Hell” right? When I first met his parents, they were a little stand-offish. They thought that dating…

ok, so I’ll admit I’m not married nor engaged, and at this point I don’t want to be–why because of what his mother is like. I’ll marry him when that woman is 6 feet under… I’m 23 years old, 7 months prego, my boyfriend 24. We have lived together for about 2 years, and when I first met his mom…while she was still in denial about us being together, she seemed really calm, fun, and to say the least…NORMAL. I’ve always managed to keep a safe distance with his family just because for awhile things were complicated between my boyfriend and I, but she takes this as me being to good for her family and I’m stuck up and no good (because I’m not like his ex girlfriend and won’t show up unannounced and won’t call her up to hang out). It seems the second she found out I was…