The other day my future sister in law called my fiance and asked if she was going to be one of my brides maids. He told her that my 3 younger sisters were going to be my brides maids. She was very upset that she was not going to be a brides maid. In turn she called her other sister and mother which lead to my future mother in law called to gripe out my fiance about how is is mean, horrible… yadda yadda yadda bla blah blah. I’m furious with the whole situation. 1… both of his sisters are married and older. 2… just because they aren’t going to be a brides maid doesn’t mean they aren’t apart of the wedding. 3… I have a younger brother but i’m not going to make him a groomsmen…. that’s my boyfriends choice. 4… my family is paying for the entire wedding. His family cannot contribute so his sisters offered to help him out a little bit. So they felt like since they are helping out they should be in the wedding. I don’t know what to do. I think it is crazy and selfish. I want them to be there and be happy for us. What do I do? How do I smooth this over? I’m extremely hurt that grown adults can be so mean and petty. HELP US
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Her name is Patricia. By day, she is Mrs. Corporate America, by night, she is an “Ann Landers” of sorts. Patricia is the founder of the internationally-recognized website, motherinlawhell.com.
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5 Responses to “sister in laws want to be my brides maids???”
STAND YOUR GROUND!!!! It is YOUR day and it should go how you want it to, not your monster-in-law or her trained minion!!!
My monster-in-law got her way with where and who was in my wedding, that was 7 years ago and I have been fuming since. Once you give those people a centimeter, they will take a million miles before you know it.
Just calmly, tell them it is what it is and its about your husband to be and you.. NO ONE ELSE!!!!
Tell the nice sisters that you are holding bridesmaid auditions and provide them each a portfolio of “requirements” such as age and so forth. What nuts. If they are not happy now, they never are going to be. How sad.
Tell the wicke.. I mean, nice sisters that you appreciate their assistance however bridesmaids plans have been set in stone since when you played with your barbies, smile sweetly, and say “I’m sure you understand”. And walk away. Also refuse to “revisit” the issue if it is brought up again. “Blah, blah, blah “_ Reply: “Oh, I could of swore we already discussed this. I consider the matter closed.”
Ummm you as the BRIDE make the choices as to WHOM is in your bridal party. My Fiance’s sister isn;t one of my maids….But then neither is my sister.
And niether one of them cares.
Autumn’s comment is perfect, if you stay calm and matter of fact about the whole thing, it ends.