After reading some of the MIL horror stories, I don’t feel alone anymore. About a year and a half ago my husband and I went to his mother to tell her we were getting married and she flipped. She said stuff like “your father and I waited for nine years before we got married” well I guess she forgot that 8 of those years were spent in highschool and college.!.!.! So we went and got married in the court house with out her knowing, that was the worst mistake ever. Now because she kept treating me and my family like crap and didn’t think our marriage was real because we didn’t marry in a church, she has split us up. My hubby was never allowed to speak his mind without her throwing a fit and saying he didn’t respect her when all in all she didn’t respect me as being his wife. So the day she brainwashed my husband into thinking I was going to leave him or never let him see her again she came up with a plan to get us apart and won. Now he has contacted me and wants to start over and fix things and she is putting up every road block she can think of to stop us from talking or seeing this marriage through. I don’t know what to do, I am thinking about driving to his house (he is living with them) and talk to the mother asking her why she can’t butt out. Any suggestions???? I need HELP!!!
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3 Responses to “She’s keeping him from me”
RUNNNNNN!!!!
Girl…run like a doe away from hunters! If after only a year and a half she was able to get you two to split up it will never get better. You are young and can still find happiness with someone else eventually, while he will be stuck with Mama til the day she dies!
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I agree. He already chose her over you. That is a huge red flag so run as fast as you can away from this mama’s boy. You are married to a boy and not a man. If ever there was a time for an ultimatum this is it. He either steps up to the plate and chooses you and your life together and cuts her off or he can choose to stay married/controlled by his mom. It really is that simple. If he refuses to do that you know he isn’t serious about making it work with you, he just wants you to get back together with him and let mommy control both of your lives. Does that sound like a happy life to you? RUN!!!!
I agree with the above. It never gets better. If you can’t let go, maybe some counseling with the 3 of you with a 3rd party but I doubt you will have any luck with that. Anytime the 2 of you argue he will run home to mommy and he’s left you once already.
I’ve been married for almost 20yrs and she’s more of a problem than she’s ever been. I love my husband and we have a great relationship, but if I could do it over again I wouldn’t get involved with him. It has hurt that bad to be a part of that dysfunctional weird family.
Good luck