This is horrible! I must be a bad mom! After all the years of trusting my MIL to the point of letting her be part of my DD’s life, she took her from me! My DD and I have been very close, but there has been this “bad” feeling about MIL - nothing abusive or anything just like she wanted to be the mom to my DD. MIL only had boys, and two of them are gay and the other one turned out to be a major loser (the one I divorced 15 years ago!) - so she never had a daughter. I felt I shouldn’t punish MIL for how her son was acting, and I also believe grandma needs a relationship with her granddaughter. I have allowed MIL to shower my DD with lavish gifts partly out of guilt because I felt sorry for her and partly because she enjoyed doing it. Maybe I should have not let it happen. I’m so hurt. DD turned 18 two weeks ago and she just up and moved in with MIL and won’t talk to me. Now, let’s back up 15 years to give DD’s bio dad (MIL’s son — no I never remarried) was abusive, unfaithful, drunk, and got into drugs. I left him so he had nothing to do with DD and I NEVER got any support from him. Yet his mom seemed to want to make up for her own son and I felt sorry for her and allowed it. I have been a fool! MIL is telling DD that I refused to let her biological dad have anything to do with my DD — WHAT THE HE**! He NEVER came around or saw her and wouldn’t work. I never really knew where he was anyway. I am a nurse and I didn’t need his support. I have been financially stable on my own but he would work “under the counter” for cash and move all the time. I’m heartbroken. DD says I was wrong, and I tell her it’s not true and she actually said her grandma wouldn’t lie about that! Then MIL says “Your mom is wrong” I’m angry too! What happened here?? DD hasn’t talked to me. She just LEFT and took her stuff. Everyone says, “oh, she’s 18 - she’ll get over it”, but grandma tells her that she will take care of her and won’t make her do what her mom (me) makes her do (like chores, pay for her own gas and earn money). So, my DD is spoiled now. I’ve felt like grandma and DD have been keeping a secret from me for the past several months - now I know the truth. I’m so hurt. Is my MIL the only one who has done this? Geez…
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Her name is Patricia. By day, she is Mrs. Corporate America, by night, she is an “Ann Landers” of sorts. Patricia is the founder of the internationally-recognized website, motherinlawhell.com.
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3 Responses to “she stole my child!”
What they told you is true - wait it out! MOST 18-year olds loose their minds and express it in one way or another. I know it hurts, but bite your tongue and don’t say anything negative about MIL. Time reveals all things.!
Good Luck !
omg that stupid woman. what goes around comes around. yes, time reveals things you wait and see. I know your hurting, and it would break my heart too. I have a two year old who is already being told horrible things about me and I am losing my cool. i hope it doesn’t last long.
I never allow my evil MIL around my children unless I am present. Works like a charm, and won’t be changing. She says she does not feel “trusted.” That’s RIGHT, lady! Get used to it!