OK so this is the situation. My soon to be MIL has my fiance run all over town doing errands for her. Wakes him up at all hours to do these errands or just to talk to him. Sometimes just to ask him a question or have him play a board game with her. She calls his cell phone all the time when we are out without any respect to what time it is or what we may be doing. He says it is easier to just do what she ask than say no. If he does, she blows up or says he does not love her. HOW DOES ONE DEA? WITH THIS?
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Oh, my. Unfortunately, I’m guessing it’s your husband who has issues. Healing this situation will have to start with him.
His mother seems to be really attached to him. Is he an only son? Is your fiance also bothered by this?
Maybe instead of talking to your fiance, you could try talking to his mom, which is, I think hard to do. But if you want to do it, don’t complain, just talk and find ways to insert in the conversation how she seems to call on all the wrong times.. you could give her his free time and when he’s busy.. (just don’t sound rude and mean) also understand that it really is hard for her to, in a way, let go of her child. I guess this is also the reason why a lot of mother-in-laws tend to be overbearing.
You could also do this
whenever your fiance calls, you’d be the one to answer the calls. But doing this would only solve the problem temporarily.
I’m not really saying you go do this stuff. It’s just that, this is what I’d do when my mother-in-law keeps on doing that.
correction: when your Mother in law calls * not fiance
I have kind of the same problem, only that my fiance always put up fights with her and listens to me too. She’s probably lonely, try spending time with her and be super talkative to her until she’s tired of you. I do that with my MIL, I talked to her until she doesn’t really want to talk to me anymore. If you do that, she then feel that she is not that lonely anymore. I dont know if it’ll works or not. Different MIL, different reactions..Good luck and STAY STRONG! WE CAN DO IT!
PS : I agree with Jrc, your husband needs to be able to support you.
Counseling, now. Otherwise your marriage is doomed.
Yes he is a only child. He says it bothers him a lot. He complains to me about it often. He just does not seem willing to tell her no. I guess its hard when she pulls a fit and says things like he does not love her. Or that he does not care about her. It’s hard for me because I cut apron strings so to speak years ago. Also my parents are sooooo self supporting they would never ask me to do something for them that they could do themselves.
I know what your going through because my husband’s mother seems to need him all the time and it is ridiculous and it will probably end our marriage.