I am living with the in laws due to the fact that my husband is away for a period of a few years. At first things were great, but then its like someone snapped. She tracks the milage on my car, requires receipts of ALL money i spend(no matter if its hers or mine), tells me i love my older daughter more than the little one(that one really hurt),and demeans and degrades me on levels everyday.i make sure that both of my girls have the same things and no one gets preffered treatment. Along with working,going to nursing school, and caring for my kids(3 and 1), i also make sure that all the cleaning is done. Like tonight, we FINALLY got a call from my husband, and she went off again. I know there is a connection between him being gone and her craziness, but i dont deserve to be the one she lashes out at. she offered to pay for my first semester of school here, but i dont want her to have another reason to go off on me. Its to a point that I dont even want to be here when she gets home. But if I go anywhere, its 300 questions about where i’ve been, who was there, why did i leave, and then a rant about me being irresponsible for leaving the house at all. I am at my wits end, and have no idea what to do.I know i need to get out, but my only option right now is section 8 housing(all my family is in russia and l.a.). i have talked to my husband about some of the issues, but not all. i really try not to say anything negative about her, just things like ‘this makes me uncomfortable, it really hurt when this happened…….ect. he knows how she is and is very supportive of me.i have never been exposed to so much anger from one person!!i am very laid back(to a point), and dont understand what i have done to her.
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3 Responses to “Please Help before i lose my mind….”
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Did your MiL treat you sone like this when he lived at home? If so, it could be you are being used as a substitute for him.
Would ground rules help? Failing that is there no way you could live somewhere else?
All the best and good luck with your nursing, don’t let her crush your spirit
You haven’t done anything. Is there anyone else you can live with? You need to get out ASAP. It won’t stop. It is something you will have to live with and deal with until you can get out.
Do you really thing there is a conncetion between your husband being gone and her behavior? I say no. I’m sure she was like this from the start, but didn’t show you this side in front of your husband.
Run while you can…Take your beutiful babies and GET OUT. Find someplace to go. Why should you be a prisoner? She has no reason to track your milage or your recipts. Tell her to go…Well, just get out.