Where to begin... From the beginning I thought the world of my mil. We were inseparable, shopping together, me bringing her to her appointments, going out for lunch,an staying with my husband and I 3/7 days per week due to the long commute between her house and ours. I bend over backwards for her, I am very generous with $, time, and purchasing whatever she needs. Well, its been 15 years and I just experienced a traumatic shock. I caught my mil stealing from me. I caught her going through my cupboards and taking whatever suited her and stuffing my items into her bags during one of her recent visits. When she left her bags unattended, I opened all her bags. I found some of my bracelets, linens, spices, trash bags, and food in her personal bags, tied into small bundles. Let me also say that she and both my husband's family and my family were all together celebrating a special occasion. I just completed a major renovation in our home to add more bedrooms to accommodate all of the family so no one needed to stay in a hotel/motel. Let me also say that this visit was the first time she was very rude to me and some of the guests. I am compeletly shocked because we have always had a good relationship. Why did she do this? I told my husband and he didn't appear shocked. He said she probably thought we wouldn't notice anything missing. What? Then my husband isn't surprised yet he insists shes not a thief. I reply, " yes, her stealing from our home makes your mother a thief. Now I don't trust her. This situation needs to be addressed before shes allowed back into our home." My husband says he will, but I doubt it. The worst part is that this could not be the first time shes done this, I just happen to catch her after all this time. My idea of her has changed, I no longer trust her, and I am angry. Ive never told her no when she has asked me for anything, She does not have dementia so that is ruled out. WTH?