I'm glad to see this site back up!
So, here's my latest....
Due to all the poor behaviors of the ILs (and ya'll will appreciate that I couldn't possibly go over all of them over the past year since it would mean writing a book), I've finally come to the point of ushering in NC. Right now we're at LC. We're moving 2,000 miles away from them in 6 months (can't wait!!), and in the meantime trying to navigate the waters of laying down boundaries for when we DO see them - which of course they immediately trample upon. They show their deep disrespect for us at every turn and their complete unwillingness to respect the boundaries we've put in place (simple things, like please give us a 24 hour notice before just popping by and to not say cruel and judgemental things to our kids - I know, right? You shouldn't have to ask such a thing, but with these people unfortunately you do).
Everyone interaction with them is a minor nightmare, which is why I've been avoiding them like the plague. I put a complete block on MIL on FB and the 24 hour notice before popping by is so that I don't have to be home when she pops by. This woman is a real piece of work, and more than I could possibly go into here, but basically she's a covert narcissist (while my FIL is an overt one). Their whole family is one big dysfunctional mess, which means of course that we've suffered quite a bit any time we've had any dealings with them.
I'm not saying I'm a wallflower, but anything I've done or said has been in reaction to their BS. I will NOT just lie down and say nothing, and of course they hate me for that. They hate me for stating the truth, or for putting my foot down and insisting we not be treated that way.
I can't WAIT for our move, and in the meantime, I'm just counting the days and trying to avoid contact with them wherever and whenever I can.
I hope you all are doing well. It's good to have the site back up so we can continue to be a support for one another.