My husband is an only child raised primarily by his grandmother and mother. He never had a relationship with his father. I realized I was not first choice for her son. I was a single mother of 3 at the time we met, and he pursued me for over 2 years.
Page forward, we have been together 10 years and have been married for almost 2. This is a 2nd marriage for both of us, as he was married for 3 years (no children) and I was married for 13 years (3 children). I have single handedly raised wonderful children who have turned into amazingly accomplished adults.
This woman has said the rudest things to me, and I have chosen to ignore her most of the time. She NEVER insults me around my husband. He can't even stand to be around her. She lost her home and we moved her into our first home along with her two roommates. They pay half of what a rental in our area would cost and EVERYTHING is out of pocket for us. She is constantly trying to use the fact of me NOT wanting to be around her and me being mean to her. She cries to my husband about how EVERYONE hates her and she has no one....all lies. She has more friends than I have had in my entire life.
I grew up in foster care and I simply do not want to be around ANYONE who treats me like crap. Life is to short to be around abusive people. She has Munchausens and is constantly injuring herself or lobbying her different doctors for invasive surgeries. She is very manipulative and wants all the attention on her, which is fine with me.....if it weren't for the fact that she uses this to make my very kind and wonderful husband miserable with perceived guilt. I hate to see him unhappy. For this reason, I have NOT once said a mean thing to her, I just ignore her which drives her up the wall apparently.
I feel our lives would be so much better without all her made up drama. I feel if she wanted a relationship with me then she can pick up the phone and make the effort. She is just not my cup of tea and I could care less about a relationship with her. She uses me and my children as an excuse to whine to my husband. Which REALLY upsets me. She lives 4 blocks from our home in a very small town, and it's all I can do to muster up enough mental energy to deal with her during the holidays.
I realize my MIL issues might seem trivial compared to most. I have no family other than my children and husband, you can count my friends on one hand. I like peace and quiet and my ideal day is to spend a day working in my garden. I have little use for people that demand constant attention....I never babied my children and I am not about to begin babying a 67 year old woman....sigh. :/