This website helped me to shed some light on the troubled relationship I was having with my MIL, so I thought why not post my own testimony if it can help others. I suffered a lot because of that woman and it went on for 15 long years.
Reading about what other people were going through helped me figure out what I was dealing with, my MIL has a passive-agressive personality, it’s not a disorder that is clinically proven to be a mental illness but I think it’s very close.
Reading about it helped me understand what I had been through, and when I came across a known psychologist that stated : you should run as far away as you can from someone who has that type of personality trouble. I thought, ok this <i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i> is serious, I was not exaggerating.
In front of my husband she pretended to like me, but as soon as she got me alone, she would be mean and cruel, and when confronted afterwards (because I did try a few times), she lied to my face, stating she had never done this or that, or said this or that. I had nowhere to go with that attitude, and she won every time, I had to drop it.
A few weeks ago I put an end to my nightmare, and cut her out of my life for good. It’s unbelievable the relief I feel, even physically I feel different. I know cutting family ties might not be the « right » thing to do, but in my case it was. The woman is not going to change, and enduring more of her torture was not an option for me.
After about 10 years of her abuse, I developed an anxiety problem, I had no idea where it was coming from or why suddenly I had this new problem in my life to deal with. It prevented me from doing a lot of things. It was her, the huge weigh I was carrying from her abuse towards me. If I had known before, she would have been out of my life a long time ago.
So to anyone out there, who suffers from a mean MIL, don’t take it, not for your husband, not for your kids, not for anyone. Save your <i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i>, because nobody else will.