I used to be close to my mother in law. When my husband and I were first married, she was sweet. A little less than a year ago now, I became pregnant with my first baby. I went to the dr who did blood tests and told me that my HCG levels were not rising correctly and that I should get an abortion because my baby wasn't growing correctly. I was absolutely heartbroken and devastated. I didn't have a good relationship with my mom, and my MIL was someone I thought I could trust. When my dr called me with that news, I went with my husband to my MIL's house. I told her what was going on. We talked for a few hours. I felt better. I asked her not to tell anyone because this wasn't very personal to me. She promised she wouldn't.
A few days later, she called and said "your brothers are getting suspicious about something going on" and "you need to tell them". I said no.
A few weeks later, I lost the baby. It was the worst thing that ever happened to me. I told my MIL. She begged me to go to the dr to make sure (I knew I lost the baby). I didn't have health insurance so I said no. She said she would pay for it, so I agreed. We went to the ER where they confirmed I had lost the baby. A few days later, she begged and begged me and my husband to tell everyone about what happened. Finally, she gathered the family into one room and told everyone I had a miscarriage. No emotion, no shock, no nothing. I knew she had told everyone about it.
She didn't help me pay the medical bills. The costs were so high that I couldn't afford it. The accounts went into collections.
I lost all my trust in her.
I became pregnant again soon after my miscarriage. We waited weeks to tell anyone. She was the last to know. She posted it on Facebook before we could. When we found out the gender, even after telling her not to, she posted it before we could as well. My whole pregnancy, she would tell me "you're looking HUGE! I bet your baby is going to be 9-10 lbs." The dr said baby is average. She never stopped telling me my whole pregnancy how huge I was. "Did your mom carry that big too?" It made me want to slap her in the face- especially since she gave birth to a 12 pounder!!!!
I recently gave birth to my baby girl. She was under 8 lbs. She looks like me. She is beautiful.
When I was in labor, we called our families and requested they do NOT come to the hospital until we say it is okay. Next thing you know, MIL calls 5 mins later and says "we are on our way!" I was PISSED. They waited in the waiting room for hours, complaining and asking why it was taking so long. The lady has 6 kids... you think she would know that I can't just force the kid out whenever!!!!!!!
We decided we only wanted me and my husband in the room for her birth. I wanted to do skin to skin for one hour, as well as give hubby time to bond with baby before anyone else did. We did that, and didn't touch our phones most of our labor. Our baby was more important than anyone.
When it was time for family to visit, they were all pissed. They were silent. No congratulations, no comments, no nothing.
Days after the baby was born, it was drama. Drama drama drama. His mom would call us crying "this is our first grand baby. You ruined it for us." "Why didn't you just tell us when the baby was born? We thought something bad had happened" (sorry that we care about our baby more than our phones)
I cannot even put into words how crazy my b**** mother in law is. This isn't even half of what she has done. The drama continues and my baby is just 15 days old today. It never ends.