My mother in law is a generally sweet woman. But she is also neurotically insecure. Though we give her validation and her life is pretty sweet, she often talks about how she thinks her children just want her dead and out of the way, and is always assuming everyone is dissatisfied with her. Recently my husband has been staying at their house (temporarily) as he is transitioning to a new job in a new city and I am staying behind to pack up our belongings. Apparently this is an incredibly deviant arrangement: brief time apart for practical reasons? The marriage must be failing. My husband told me that his mother asks him every day if he is there because we had a fight or whatever.
You know how, if someone repeatedly asks you why you're angry and you're not, you will get angry at the baseless interrogation? This feels like that. I was excited for my husband to make this major life change and proud of him for being brave. But now after being grilled about it all day every day he is beginning to change his mind and wants me to move down with him immediately (impossible due to the terms of the lease and my two jobs). Whenever I see my mother in law, she hammers me about what I'm doing and why I'm not with my husband.
Now I'm beginning to see where my husband got his insecurities! And I'm full of impudent rage!