I used to get along great with my mother in law until we had a baby. Ever since then I cannot stand her. It started when I was in the hospital and asked her for some time alone to work on breastfeeding with the lactation consultant and she threw a fit saying we were keeping her from her grandson. She refuses to come to our house to visit but yells at us if we dont come by every couple of days. And all she does when we do go is argues with us about how to take care of our son and complains my husband is a terrible son for not calling and seeing her every day. She tries to boss my mom around like shes one of her employees when it comes to taking care of my son even though my mom knows him much better and my mil is seriously jealous. She has very strong sometimes racist and homophobic opinions that she tries to push on others, telling me she will pay for my son to go to a private school so he isnt taught that it is ok for gays to marry. I want the woman out of my life, but i know it is unfair to my husband.