MiL barged into my kitchen and started cleaning all the dirty dishes, whilst I was upstairs feeding the baby, despite me saying that I don't like it. Hubby basically let her. So I told hubby off....and told him in front of her that he can ask whoever he wants for help when he does the housework. But since I do it I have every right to say no. They are just not willing to accept their boundaries and the fact that people can have some sense of pride and may want to keep dirty dishes (they were mine - they didn't use them - it's not like we had had a party) etc a private thing. There is just no respect.
Tired of boundary stepping inlaws and a husband who is not willing to step in.