My mother in law has to be the snoopiest, vile, most emotionally manipulative, hypochondriac control freak of a person I've ever met. Always has her nose in someone's business (especially mine).
I've been with my partner for almost 2 and a half years (both of us mid twenties), first three months not one problem. After she realised it wasn't ending she started to get jealous and started causing problems.
She dictates every aspect of his life: finances, food, where he goes, when he works, literally everything.
She goes through my private belongings when I stay there and then gossips to her friends about what she finds. She constantly asks about my work roster and where me and my partner are going so she can time her snooping before we return. It gets worse if she thinks there is bills or bank account stuff she can snoop through.
She always asks questions that are worded like an accusation and then when you confront her in front of others the waterworks start and it's just because she "cares to much" that she wants to be involved. Yeah right.. She is the most emotionally manipulative person I've ever met and it seems no one else in her family can see it. She will do just about anything to get her own way. I'm almost greatful I don't want children because that's something she can't use as a bargaining chip as I know most MIL's do.
It bothers because we are talking more about marriage and (we have agreed we can't have her there) and I am constantly concerned about how her behaviour would weigh on our relationship because I can guarantee she won't change.
I remember mentioning one day the area in which we would like to live together on our own and she would not "allow it" because it was to far from her.
I'm at my wits end, I've ignored the behaviour, I've set boundaries and consequences but nothing is working. I'm about to lose my god damn mind.
Thanks for listening everyone <3