Hello Everyone, I need help! I am so confused about my relationship with my husband due to his parents. A little history about us, we are high-school sweet hearts ( been together for 12 years), got married 4 years ago and have a beautiful 3 year old boy. For 12 years their has been on and off rude comments from his parents made to me. Example: his father said he is going to take his son back home to find a better girl ( this happened at the beginning of our realtionship). After we got married, everything was wonderful, great, we were loving it. His nightmare parents started becoming more manipulators once we had our son. I have been hurt so many times now, I don't know what to do anymore. My husband seems to be in denial about his parents actions. Example: I had to bring my husband to the hospital. I called his parents the next day, to tell them and ask if they can come up and watch our son while I do some errands for my sister's wedding which was that weekend. His dad yelled at me, why didn't you call me and let me know. I said I am letting you know now and calling you while I was driving your son to the hospital was not my first concern. Blunt out I said, are you guys coming up or not because I can find someone else. Sure enough he stopped right away and said no we will be there. My husband believes he didn't yell at me, it's the way he talks. I am a loud person as well, and I know when I am upset or angry, I get louder. My husband confronted his dad and he denied it, of course. This is not the first nor will it be the last time. Where is the fine line? Do I allow this to continue or do I call it quits? My husband seems to always wanting to please his parents first then us and seems to believe everything they say and not me. FYI, my husband has 2 older brothers in which 1 disconnected from the whole family and brother #2 barely speaks to his parents and it's only my husband who wants full contact with them especially the way they are treating me. These are only a couple of examples I have shared, I have 12 years worth. Hope someone can help me out.
Thanks in advance