My infant daughter is very clingy. She doesn't even like me being in a separate room from her. And it makes sense that she's a mommys girl since she spends all day everyday with me and we've never been apart. She's such an excellent baby, always happy, doesn't cry unless she needs something and only whines when she wants me.
But everytime we visit her grandparents, her grandmother takes her from me and she CRIES IMMEDIATELY. It's painful to see the look on her face like she's absolutely terrified and sheds real tears. Now it's because she doesn't know them very well, she hardly ever sees them as we rarely get the chance to visit. But she has been held by people she doesn't know and she never cries, at most if she's ever uncomfortable shell just reach for mommy again.
Every. Single. Time. We visit her grandmother she cries, and then stays very upset for the rest of the day. I feel bad for how it must make her grandmother feel. She probably feels very terrible and has a hard time thinking that her granddaughter doesn't like her. BUT she blames me. Every time she takes her and she cries, she tells me it's because I spoiled her, she's a mommys girl, she spends TOO MUCH time with me, I don't let her get comfortable with anyone else.
I understand that it's obviously very hard to accept that my daughter is uncomfortable with her, but to put me down because of it is just low. She doesn't have a problem being held by anyone else, just her. And honestly, if she was a little less overwhelming it might be easier on the baby. Her grandmother is LOUD and annoying, constantly scratching at the baby's face, making loud sounds to get her attention when all it does is frighten her.
I know the solution is to have them spend more time together, so the baby gets more comfortable with her, but her grandmother thinks that she can just jump right in, that she should be fine because it's heerrrr granddaughter. I can't tell her that she's being too overwhelming, that he has no clue how to handle a baby really. (She's never had a baby of her own, she's my husbands stepmother) I feel bad for her, to have the baby cry every time she holds her. But then when we leave I end up feeling like the bad guy, like it's all my fault because of what they say to me. We should see them more and spend more time with them, but with the way they are I really don't want to.