Mother-in-law Hell

I don’t even know where to begin..I have been with my husband for 7 years, married for 4 this January. My MIL has been divorced for maybe 15 years and has since remarried. Her first husband cheated on her. (now we know why.. he couldn’t get out of there fast enough.)
*mil loved me until the day my husband proposed..all downhill after that.. didn’t congratulate me when we got engaged, just said “don’t hurt him”.
*told me over the phone she bought a white dress for my wedding. When I confronted her she said told me where she bought the dress and said she couldn’t return it. I found out after the wedding she borrowed the dress from a friend.
*Said I was nice to her until I got what I wanted, “When I took her son from her”..she stated once i got what I wanted, I didn’t need to be nice to her anymore.
*Used to call when she knew my husband wasn’t around and would throw digs at me and say things and would deny saying them when my husband confronted her. I caught on quick to that trick and I don’t answer the phone when my husband isn’t home and I make sure he is in the room when she is around so he hears everything.
*When picking out wedding proofs to buy, didn’t pick any pictures of me, until I said something.
*My husband and I aren’t having children, we chose not to, she told us to tell people that I couldn’t have them.
*Hates me, loves her oldest son’s wife, who got pregnant by accident by her son.. and she already has a daughter with another guy… Loves her!!
*Never chipped in for my bridal shower and refused to help with the planning.
*As it is we probably see her 3x a year now, because it has gotten so bad because everytime we go over she throws digs and just makes everybody very uncomfortable.
*Last Xmas, gave us a GC to a restaurant, handed it to us in a red paper clip, not even addressed to or from or in an envelope, and said she didn’t do cards this year.
*The little digs she throws are so unbelieveable that I have learned to ignore them. My husband now sees how crazy she really is.
*When we first got married she would send both of us an xmas card and then one to just my husband.
*She lays the guilt trip on my husband all the time because he nevers goes to visit. He doesn’t go to visit because he doesn’t feel like hearing her. Also, she can invite us over anytime, but she chooses not to.

There is so much more!!!! I have a list, because I have to write things down as they happen or I would end up telling her off, which I wouldn’t do out of respect to my husband. I would be here all night writing.. but this feels good to get off my chest. I am just thankful that my husband and I have a very strong relationship and he is on my side and sees how manipulating, ruthless, and vicious, she can be. I’m also glad we don’t have children, because I can’t imagine how that would play out. She gives us enough trouble without them.

After reading a lot of these stories, it seems like all of these mil’s are all alike.. and it seems like a lot of them are divorced. I wonder if that plays a role in it. Too bad most of these women deny that they act this way, because if they recognized what they did, the support groups would be overflowing.

The holidays are coming and I am already getting stressed out.. As it is we have limited our time that we see her on the holidays because it has gotten so bad. If anybody has any advice on how to deal with this woman. She is getting worse as the months go on. We haven’t spoken to her since July.