I recently became engaged after 7 years oF dating. I have two great kids. My kids and family have accepted my fiance. We are very happy together. He proposed during a vacation we took together. I was so happy, BUT I knew something was not right. When we go home he announced to his mom and family about the engagement. She went through the roof. He is 41. She lives with him. After things died down he and i started planning her birthday party. It was put on hold because of a funeral. The party was today. Last night my fiance broke the news to me that she just wanted family there and didn’t want me or my kids at her party. She told him, it wasn’t me it was her. I wanted to kick her a**. I had even written her a letter extending the hand of friendship. I asked her to lunch or dinner so we could take and find a common ground. She never bothered to say (yes,no,or maybe). My fiance and I spoke today and his brother, sister-in law, neice, and her ex husband (SHE HAS BEEN DIVORCED FOR OVER 20 YEARS) were all there. This is a load of bullsh*t. My fiance’s birthday is tomorrow, and i wanted to surprise him. Now i just want to push her head in his cake. I expalined to him that this should not have been a surprise. You either die, get married , or go your seperate ways. SHOULD I CONFRONT HER OR LET HIM CONFRONT HER? He will do a bad job. She cooks him dinner every night. He takes her to work every morning and to almost every doctor’s appointment. She chose not to learn how to drive. I told him this was unacceptable. Please give me some advice.
Thanks,
JUST PLAIN MAD
Loading ...
Advice
3 Responses to “MY BLOOD IS BOILING”
RUN. if he can’t stand up to her now he never will. this is really about your fiance and your fmil. don’t take the bait.
Total Mama’s Boy! If you don’t nip this in the bud right now, it will never happen.
The fact that he even considered telling you she doesn;t want you or your kids at HIS B-day party cause she said so should be a huge red flag.
He has never grown up
he should have said, they are my family, and if theyre not welcome, then neither am i. if hes not accepting you as his family now, youve been let off easy. time to split. if he really loves you, hell come to you, sans mother. if not, its his bed hes lying in. dont do this to your kids.