so my husband and i have been together for almost 4 years. we just got married last month in september. three days prior to the wedding day, i told her(the worst name i could think of), my mother (who had been driving me up the wall also), and my stepmom(the most sane person out of all of this) that if either one of them didnt cooperate or take a simple picture with someone they may not like or just made a scene to cause attention to themselves (my family is very selfcentered on both sides), then i would tell them to leave before the ceremony even started and wouldnt think twice about it.
so with that being said, it came time to take pictures and we did…kinda….my husband and i took pics with my side of the family and then when it came time to take pics with his side of the family…this is when all hell broke loose. so just a little tidbit about this before i go any further. my dad and mom are divorced and both remarried and so are my husbands parents.
so the photographer calls my husbands mother and father to take a picture with derek. his mother said flat out in front of everyone that she wasnt taking the picture with him.
i overheard and stepped right up.
i went up to her and told her to f****** leave and to do it now.
my husband says i overreacted. i told him about the conversation we had and he still took her side. i asked him to please let me know when he can put me on the same pedastel as his mother who didnt do anything for him, but yet did everything for his two older brothers.
the way i look at it…if my mom, who stole money from my dads prior business, and my dad who cheated on my mom, can take a picture…then by golly george, his mother who beat and cheated on his dad, who didnt do anything wrong to her, can take a picture together.
wow this really does feel good!
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7 Responses to “MIL causes a scene on OUR WEDDING DAY”
Oh wowie, that’s awsome you told her to leave lol. I’m having a hard time putting my MIL in her place. Pain in the ass your husband picks her side, he never see’s the “big deal”, get’s on my nerves, my hubby is the same way. It’s your wedding day, you already told them if they caused a scene you’d have no problem telling them to f*** off. Should of listened lol..
You go girl! I don’t blame you at all.
good job. you needed to be firm and let her know she will not mess with you.
Good for you! I have been married for 3 1/2 years and also have a MIL from hell. Stand your ground, trust me my husband tried to protect his mother for almost 2 years while I refused to talk to her. After my son was born I talked to her so she could see him (with me present of course. She is just nuts so I handed her enough rope to hang herself and she did. My husband is amazed at how crazy she is and stands right by my side. They eventually get in, it just takes some time. When your husband gets tired of living in caos he will see things your way!
The best thing to do is move to another state.
My mil moved to Nebraska and i have been happier than ever!!!
I am so sorry that happened. My husband and i have been married since February but we finally had our wedding in September this year. I didn’t want one of his sisters to be in the wedding, well his mom threw a huge fit saying that she is his sister and she has to be in the wedding, blah, blah, blah. So i said she could, and then when it came to getting dresses, all she did was say they were all too much. So i looked, and looked and looked to find a great deal. I did, i found a store having a 75% off bridesmaid dresses. So i made everyone go there so i wouldn’t single her out. Then aobut 3 months before the wedding everyone was talking about poor her, she has a bad back, she has a bad hip, she has bad luck……She got fat and couldn’t fit into her dress. So my MIL is going on a sob story about how shes not going to have anything nice to wear at the wedding becuase shes going to have to buy her daughter another dress and its going to be a lot of money and she still needs something to wear and hair and nails and blah blah. His sister and mother also each have middle child syndrom really bad. They always have to be the center of attention. Well we get threw the ceremony, and not 30 minutes into the reception, his sister fell and “tore her ACL” (never had to have a surgery, it heeled on its own….. torn ligaments don’t do that in under like 2 weeks) anyway she was wailing like a banchie in the middle of the dance floor for like 20 minutes. Everything had to stop. pretty much everyone left they were embarrassed to listen to her. My husbands family all left but some aunts and uncles, his parents and grandparents were gone. And i was upset, and his family started saying horrible things about me at my wedding because i was upset my wedding day was ruined. So i totally feel for you. I wouldn’t let anyone get a picture of me crying, i was a mess but there is a few with my face all red and puffy from crying so much. I felt ugly and misrable on my wedding day and you seem to be the person who can relate best with that with me.
The same exact situation happened to me. Both husband and I have divorced parents. To make everyone feel included we took pictures with stepparents but wanted a picture of us with just our biological parents. MIL flips her gasket and causes a huge scene in the church. I wish I would have turned around and told her to leave! Good for you.