My MIL and I truly HATE each other! I have been with my husband for 16 years and we have been married for 12 of those years. I have ALWAYS had MAJOR problems with her right from the beginning. She slapped me in the face after my husband and I showed her the wedding invitations we planned on using. She has ALWAYS tried to get my husband to leave me and to try to encourage our son to live with her instead. In fact, at one time I was trying to make it work with her. So when my husband and I went on vacation we allowed her to watch our son. She actually enrolled him into a daycare/school program and told everyone in the family to NOT tell us where he was going. She had her mind made up that he would just stay with her I suppose. When we got back, the other family members did tell us he was enrolled into a school and they weren’t suppose to tell us about it. There are soooo many other situations, but it would take all day to go through them. I know it sounds really crazy, but it is very true.
Now, my husband has been going through a very stressful time. He has social anxiety disorder and I have always thought he was an undiagnosed bipolar disorder. Normally, he is such a great person, but recently he has been acting very odd. He has been dillusional and says things that are very scary to me. So I took him to the hospital to have him seen about. He was prescribed medication and was taking it for a while. I thought he was continuing to take it because there was no reason to think he wasn’t. He knew that he needed help and wanted to get that help at the time.
Come to find out he had stopped taking his medication for some reason about 2 weeks ago. When he would visit other people it was obvious that he was still dillusional, but I wasn’t told about this. When he was around me he seemed fine. I was busy working so I did not pay as close as attention to him as I should have.
On last Tuesday he said he was going to get something to eat. I have NOT seem him since!! I became so worried I filed a missing persons report. I had to call his mother and other family to see if they had seen him. They all told me no. I began getting suspicious because his mother wasn’t at all worried about him being missing.
Now I have found out that he had went to visit her after thinking people were watching him and recording him. She kept him at her house and is medicating him herself. She keeps giving him sleeping pills to knock him out. Other family members have now seen him and have told me that he is out of his mind. I am extremely worried about him.
I went to my MIL house and told her that I know my husband is there and I want to see him right now! She told me that he wasn’t there and that I wasn’t welcome there. I explained to her that when my husband left he took all of the money, credit cards, atm cards and my ID is even in his truck. I explained that I MUST have access to money to feed myself and my son. She told me to go to my family and ask them for money! She told me she was calling the police and I said fine I want to speak to them to because I have missing persons report out on him. I told her that if he is not there why isn’t she worried about him like I am? It makes no since. The police did come and they were totally on her side because she was the one who called them and I was at her home. They said if I came back she would have them to arrest me!!! All of this was done in front of my son her grandson!!!
I am at a loss and I don’t know what to do. My MIL is not a doctor and cannot just feed my husband pills and keep him doped up. She has even had his vehicle moved somewhere so that he cannot get into it and drive. He may be bad off enough so that he should not drive, but that is not the point.
I don’t know what options I have here. What exactly can I do to find out what is really going on? It has been days and my husband has not even called me. There is no reason he would just do this on his own, it is not like we had a fight or anything like that.
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5 Responses to “MIL Is Keeping My Husband Away From Me!”
WHAT? Are you serious? Leave the lunatic at her house and start a new life.
oh wow! Has any of the other family talked to him? Will she let anyone else in to see him? What do those that have seen him say? She sounds pretty nuts to me. Is the truck in your name too? If so report it stolen. Are you on the bank accounts?? If so call or go to the bank and have them send you a new card. I would also call the police again and tell them that you have been told by reliable souce that she is drugging him and keeping him there against his will. If things are the way you say they are and you guys are not having trouble than you owe it to your husband and your son to fight for him. Once you get him back and he confirms that she has kept him there against his will you need to press charges. Good Luck! Let us know how it goes.
It could be technically argued that she has kidnapped your husband. She is drugging him to keep him there and that is against the law. It sounds like from your story that your husband has a diagnosis. I would speak with his doctor and explain the situation. The doctor may be willing to speak to the police with you. Your MIL is endangering your welfare and that of your child by denying you access to your husband. Once you get him back, PRESS CHARGES. She cannot be allowed to get away with something so grievous.
And ignore the obviously insensitive comment to “leave the lunatic.” He’s not a lunatic; your MIL is.
People with a mental illness will often stop taking their meds because they feel “fine” and thus, “no longer need to take them.” I know this sounds messed up, but that is how it works. Your husband needs to be in an environment where he will take his meds, even if he must be watched while doing so. The MIL’s house is not the place for this to occur. It looks like she does not even accept that he has any mental issues. Contact an attorney or your local law enforcement on how to proceed. And good luck!
Mandipants- he has a sociel anxiety disorder - is bipolar- and dillusional. I would call that a lunatic. Insensitive or not - it is the TRUTH.
Why would anyone deal with this SOAP OPERA life? WOuld you? SOmetimes the truth is BOLD AND INSENSITIVE. No apologies from me.