MIL has is having a party for my SIL. She intentionally invited people who have have called me on my cell phone, at my house, and sent me nasty e-mails when I did not agree with my MIL. A few of them are not even friends of my MIL but friends of her other daughter who is very evil. Her daughter is very self center and selfish. As a matter of fact the enitre off spring of my MIL are all about me,myself, and I. I was not planning on going but my husband does not want his mother to look bad in front of the relatives if I do not attend. I just do not feel I need to be put in such a hostile enviroment. Please help.
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9 Responses to “MIL is having a party and invited people to attack me”
Simple solution. Don’t go. Tell your husband that you don’t deserve to be attacked. His mother can go get stuffed.
Is the hubby going to this party? IF it is a “hen” party then politely decline the invite with the standard “OH I’m sorry I have another engagement for that date!” Then go to the movies with you bff. The only way this woman will look bad is if she crabs about you not coming and you know she will, so just let the “cry me a river” flow and have a good time at the flick!
Who cares if your MIL looks bad? You have a huge DH problem if he is willing to throw you under the bus to appease his psycho mother. He should understand why you don’t want to go to the party. You are a grown woman, if you don’t want to go, don’t go. If it makes mommy dearest look bad, then too bad. Until she shapes up her act you don’t owe her any favors.
Also, tell your hubs to grow a set and start standing up for you. Isn’t he concerned at all for your well being and safety? If the answer is no, then you need to rethink what kind of marriage you have.
Did you tell your husband about those nasty emails? Do you still have them to show him? If I were you, I would show my husband those emails.
Does your husband care if your mom looks bad in your eyes? Or does he only care about his mom looks in other peoples eyes?
You need to protect yourself and understand that these people are going to talk crap about you whether you show or not. So don’t go and let them talk behind your back. Maybe send your husband and make up a good excuse, and maybe he will hear some of the nasty things they may say about you. I agree that if you do not want to go, don’t go. Life is too short to subject yourself to abuse.
I wouldnt go Why should you give a dam this is a perfect chance to make her look bad once again your husband cares more about mommy then you I would not go. My mil is a witch and very munipulating also:)
Why is this even a question? Do not go. Stay home.They are not your family- they are his family. Take care of yourself and stay away from them.
I agree with you. STAY AWAY. Your hubby needs to be a man. I guess a good majority of people are so unhappy that they need to spread it around. Trust me….it isn’t about you. If you did something to upset her she should communicate with you. Stand up for yourself and know you have every right to protect yourself…your husband certainly isn’t. I just did the same thing but because of my mans sister. I am not only not going to the Thanksgiving party (I was assigned to dessert)but I also wrote her a long letter standing up for myself after three years of being silent. It was good therapy and it will be good for her to read what I think of her and her evil actions. It was delivered yesterday!
I am new to this site, but as I read a lot of these “SOS’s” I am wondering where are the husbands, why do they let it get to such a bad point, I think if the men stand up to there mothers and demand respect for there wives half of these situations could’ve been resolved. I agree with you, don’t go… and he should be there to support you and your feelings, he seems to be only concerned about his mothers feelings! He married you not his mother.
Please tell me you didn’t go? To hell with how his mother looks in fron t of the relatives! He would rather these people rip you to shreds then you be the adult and remove yourself from a potentaly hurtful situation?