Mother-in-law Hell

My MIL and SIL’s have been nightmares since we decided to get married…17 years ago!

When my oldest son was born he was not expected to make it through the night because of complications and when the docs finally felt he was stable enough for us to go into NICU, I grabbed my camera and my MIL said “I cannot believe you are going to take pictures of a dying child”…give you any ideas what kind of person I am dealing with?

My husband once worked within the family business and finally had to leave because it got so bad. When customers would ask where he was my SIL told people my husband had stolen money from the comapany! We had to hire an attorney to make her stop the crazy stories.

The SIL’s and their families go on vacations with the In Laws and tell their children not to tell my kids, but of course they do. The cousins tell my children “Oh, we had so much fun on vacation with Grandma and Grandpa but they did not want you there.”

So, my final straw was this past summer when we attended a family birthday party and one of the SIL’s called one of my children a liar, the cousins were talking about another family party that night that we were not invited to, and one of the cousins called my 6 year old daughter a lesbian.

When my daughters birthday rolled around last month my MIL called to see if she could take her out to celebrate her special day. I said that was fine and we hung up. Ten minutes later the phone rings and it is my MIL telling me she has taken it upon herself to call the cousin who called my daughter a lesbian and asked if she could come. MIL buys all the other grandchildren their school clothes and wanted to take the cousin shopping for her clothes while my daughter was with them, supposedly celebrating her birthday!! My husband said our daughter would not be coming and she did not take her.

Last week we decided to tell the inlaws we would not be attending family functions with the SIL’s and that did not go over very well. So, my husband went to visit his father last night since his birthday is coming up. My children went but this may be the last time. My daughter went to the basement where the inlaws keep the toys and she found some dolls to play with…my MIL came down, took the dolls and said “I bought those for your cousins when they are here. You need to put those up and find something new to play with.”

There is not enough space on this forum to tell everything. We moved from the town we all lived in to get away and hoped it would make a difference but it made it worse.

What do we do? I refuse to go to their home anymore. Why should I?