MIL - An absolute DISGRACE on my wedding day!

by sarahgreen on 11/14 @ 6:09pm

I got married 1 month ago. It cost me a fortune and I put a hell of a lot of work into it. Everything went well in the morning. Had loads of fun getting ready and our wedding ceremony was beautiful. Unfortunately it went downhill from there.

MIL was a complete nightmare all day. She didn’t even say hello to me or wish me well all day. She walked off when we were having our big group photo taken. She had a big miserable face on during the family shots. During the wedding breakfast she didn’t eat a thing but got completely drunk. She didn’t stay at the top table for more that 5 minutes but was getting up to go to the loo and walking over to another table which had some of her other family on. The time she did sit at the top table she spent on her mobile phone even though we had specifically asked for phones tp be tuned off during the meal. She followed me out to the toilet and stood outside shouting to her other daughter in law (on the phone) how great she was and how much she was her favourite daughter in law.

I bought my wedding dress from the first shop I went in to. It wasn’t a big occasion, I just ha my Mum with me…. MIL shouted over on the top table during the wedding breakfast to Hubby how his brothers fiance had invited her to go wedding dress shopping with her.

During the speeches she sat with a grumpy grumpy face on with her head in her hands making a big show of how bored she was. Then HUbby stated his speech. She got up and walked to the toilet, missing the majority of his speech. Then she was the only one who didn’t stand up and clap as we exited the room.

Then the evening do started. By this time she still had not said anything noce to me all day. She was completely drunk and looked a complete state on the dancefloor. She went round trying to dirty dance with all the blokes including my dad and uncles who were shocked and pulled away.

I have since heard that she was asking people outside towards the end of the evening for “wacky baccy”. And my dad said he saw her outside smoking with one of her daughters and sons and she shouted over to my dad did he want a smoke. When my dad said no she said is wasn’t tobacco but waccy baccy.

She was rude to my mum all day too. On numerous occaions my mum said hello and tried to say goodbye at the end of the eveing and she just got blanked.

I’m so angry about the whole thing. She has since apologiseed to hubby who went to see her after our honeymoon for an explanation of her actions. He had a go at her but said he just wants to move on so will continue to be civil to her. I haven’t spoken to her. She has asked me to forgive her via text and said that she had felt left out of the weding plans ! So I guess I am to blame for the whole thing!!

I don’t like remembering my own wedding now. I can’t wantch my wedding DVD and I’m not looking forwaard to seeing the professional photos. I’m really upset and just wish we had gone off to the Maldives or something and had nice preivate wedding

I kept having flashbacks during the honeymoon and am now desperately just trying to forget everything. Being back at work helps. I just cannot believe how rude she was. I had a feeling she didn’t like me much but she has always been civil every time we’ve met and she has never been nasty to my face.

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6 Responses to “MIL - An absolute DISGRACE on my wedding day!”

louise said on 11/14/08 @ 7:26pm

Isn’t a wedding planned by the bride and her family? I know there are a few things the groom’s side is responsible for, did she do those tasks? The woman let her anger and snide actions speak for her…she was an idiot, looked like an idiot and acted the idiot to perfection. The texted message asking for you to forgive her should have had a reply of “this should have been asked face-to-face” and leave it there. Just watch those wedding vids and think to yourself “OH LOOK, the free clown show!” when you see her antics. Be prepared for more appearances from that sideshow at future events.

shiksagoddess said on 11/18/08 @ 7:01am

Speaking from experience, the need to over-analyze your wedding will fade with time.

As far as moving on … there is no way you will ever get over this until she make a full apology. Blaming her vile behavior on her feelings of abandonment is childish. She needs to state that she is sorry, for “X” behavior, and that she hopes you can forgive her. Anything less is a fake apology and should be treated with the respect it is due.

- the shiksagoddess

amyshannoncook said on 11/21/08 @ 11:18pm

You know what screw being nice, what is it with people now days? If you get treated like crap or have something ruined, give a dose of the deliverers meds to them! NOTHING teaches a rude person what it feels like until happens to them especially when they do it repeatedly. I am tired of being nice and getting ran over by jerks including rude a$$ mother-in-laws. Turning the other cheak is going to get two cheaks slapped or spat apon! Some people are just ruthless and vindictive(it actualy takes a spine to stand up to someone!)Or you can just walk away! But it’s definately a better lesson to give them a taste of there own meds! Maybe they will think twice about being nasty to someone else, they will definately see you will not take it any more and that there will be consiquinces! Forgive the spelling! But you get my point!

Bunny said on 11/22/08 @ 6:14am

I’m also speaking from experience my wedding was no cake walk I met my husband in cali. in L.A. and even before she met me or anything she was saying horrible things like the only reason I’m marrying him is because he’s in the military.Now is that ridiculous or what?what does that even mean?anyways I flew over to be with him in his home state 2 make a long story short I got pregnant but even before I got pregnant we were planning marriage so when he told her she made this whole dramatic show saying in a pathetic sobbing cry :I JUST DONT WANT YOU TO GET HURT WA WA WA!!!so when we got married we had no help his mother was spreading roomers to everyone I went in contact with saying horrible things lie lies & more lies.finally when the wedding came around she made it her job to make me miserable dirty looks nasty gestures and comment after comment treated my mum like she wasn’t even there as well as my brother this I didn’t have a baby shower with my son all my friends & fam r in L.A. so I really had no one she our wedding gifts were like what you give to a stranger garbage cheap nothing was of quality except from my fam they gave us very nice things my mother told me that my wedding was like a funeral well its been 2 years and I had another child a lil girl so my hubby threw me a shower & of course she had something nasty 2 say she had the nerve to say that a friend is suppose 2 throw me the shower that I look like I’m wanting gifts from everyone my daughter is 4 months old now last month my husband blew up at her and told her maybe she should be a better mil her response was maybe I should be a better daughter in law and then she threw an entire alcoholic beverage over my husbands head my husband went ballistic shouting at her so we left & she texted my hubby after he told her we are never going to c her & she’s never going to c her grandchildren again she wrote back stated:Ok if that’s what you want just do 1 thing 4 me when you r sober open your eyes she is far from who she wants us all to believe she is the only one who wont see it is you!! So as of now we are not talking to that very revengeful woman and note that this whole time I tried so hard to befriend her & she refused to accept me so all you daughter in laws if your hubby loves u as much as he claims he wont let that antichrist woman behave the way she is if he does nothing then he is not worth it I’m so glad I have a strong man by my side every woman should remember you are a person a human being so DEMAND RESPECT NOW OR NOTHING WILL EVER CHANGE

Bunny said on 11/22/08 @ 6:20am

oh and she was the one who was wasted that night nice huh!and her asking you 2 apoligize tell her to shove her bloody head up her bloody bleeeeeep!!!!!