Mother-in-law Hell

im sorry are we related .. it sounds like ur talkin about my MIL
lol

the best part is mine makes fun of cry babies and says ur not tough enuf if you cry to your hubby
but if she doesnt get her way she cries like a mad woman ..

one time we wouldnt let our son have her cookies at 11p and she cried for 5 wks and not to us but everyone else in TOWN so we looked like the bad guys

Wow!

Wow! Looks like I am part of your family too. My MIL is the most sensitive person I have ever met. She always acts like the victim in all situations. She cries and has a hissy fit when things don’t go her way, as if we are ruining her life on purpose. Before the delivery of my son, I told everyone I only want my husband and my mom to be in the room. My MIL freaked out and balled crying asking me why she can’t come in. DUDE! Its a personal moment, my legs are going to be wide open and I only want certain ppl there. Sometimes I ignore her calls and cringe when I hear her talk… its keeps me sane!

I would start making weekend plans that include my daughter, like play dates with other children, BD parties, etc. VERY good excuses that she can’t argue with.

What a drama queen! print the responses and mail them to her!

Take control now!!! This is your child & it only takes a few words in their little ears to get them to start disrespecting you too.
My daughters first phrase was “moms a bitch”…Grandma thought that was cute & interesting. & said that I shouldn’t use such language in front of my child.
We do not use that kind of language….EVER…AT ALL.
And you’ve got to get your husband to step up to the plate and start seeing the damage that his mother is causing. I’d check out a family counselor. & try to find a male counselor. Husbands tend to feel less ganged up on if the counselor can see his side of the situation.

& check out a local “play group” or start one of your own. It’s amazing that in our (very) little town I found the best support was not from my normal friends but from these women who had children close to my children’s ages. We are able to help each other out in so many different areas it’s like a weekly therapy session. I was even able to hear that my MIL had said some positive things about me once….at least once & thats a step in the positive direction….i hope.
Good luck

OMG. We are related too! My MIL is alone, a devout Christian and is manic depressive. She gets into a tailspin and has a huff for weeks on end leaving me high and dry without relief for me to work two afternoons a week. Her son is training for triathalons so he’s busy busy around his work schedule. She goes on accusing me of this and that (based on her imaginations and assumptions) but not directly to my face so I have no way of addressing it. From everything she says about me my impression is that she thinks I have ill will for her and also that I have no right trying to raise a child (I have a 7 month old daughter) since SHE is the one who was a neo natal nurse in the freakin 40’s or 50’s for a couple of months and SHE’s had two grown children. Apparently at 37 I’m no match to her experience and wisdom. She has issues with my wanting to put sunscreen on my baby as she never used it on her kids and they frolic’d in New Zealand at the beach without it. Don’t get me started!!!

I’ve sent her a card in the mail apologizing if anything I’ve said or done has offended her and that I had not meant to and I’ve also forced a big huge hug on her with the widest and warmest of smile on my face but…she thinks it’s all a cover up.

Unfortunately my boyfriend (that REALLY bugs her that we’re not married) is of no help because he is hard enough on me already and doesn’t have any empathy in his bones.

Help!

1. Repeat this two letter word with a straight face… “NO”
2. Now, say it with a pause, wow, that’s interested, hmmm, NO
3. Who gives a rip if she gets upset and cries — you need to set boundaries and tell her NO
4. I am real sorry your husband is a mama’s boy — is he supportive at all? If not, what do you think about getting some counseling and then asking him to come… you may to enlist some help to get him to see what is going on
5. If she kicks and screams you may need to cut her out of the picture

It is so very sad that these grown women do not have their own identity in the world and are so emotionally needy… so much that they ruin the lives of their children and their children’s spouses…
but here is the real deal girls, these mils can only ruin our lives if we ALLOW THEM TO.

Say NO now…

You have the right to say no… sure, she may not like you after you say no again and again, but now, what do you want, to be liked by an emotionally draining, emotionally needy, immature old women or have control of your own sanity, children and life?

The choice is ours for the taking!

SAY NO!

mines MUST be related. although im not married, i have a son with my boyfriend and we’re living at his parents house. SO I GOTTA LIVE WITH HER!!! anyways…when i was pregnant she didnt approve of me going over there so i had to sleep on the couch 7 months pregnant while my boyfriend slept on the floor to hold my hand. she claims that she treats me like family yet she hides food, she always has something to say about how i raise my son and most of all, she ALWAYS gives me crap about going to my parents house to visit. this woman is mean and i wish one day i can just tell her how i really feel, but i do appreciate that she lets me stay at her house…even though she never lets me forget that IT IS HER HOUSE. she makes me lose my mind.

I can’t believe how many of us are related on here! My MIL openly admits that she’d love to have another baby, all she wants is to have her kids little again…. so she tries to take a very *active* roll with our kids.

What we did was move 2000 miles away! Kinda backfired though, instead of the few-hour visits where she brought shopping bags full of gifts, now we get her for three friggin weeks and she brings two suitcases FULL of presents.

I agree with a lot of the other girls - just say NO, and do it with a great huge smile on your face!