Mother-in-law Hell

Ok are you my mom? lol I hear ya my parents are awesome and there attitude is “we are here if you need us”. My mother in law on the other hand is an overbearing crazy monster! My advice pick a day either Christmas Eve or Christmas for you guys to celebrate with them. Mother in law will have to deal! Stand your ground!

Ok so I happen to be blessed with a very lovely mother in law however my best friend is kind of in the same boat. His mother is always wanting her attention and never wanting to give them time with her family. Honestly I would do what she does and just ignore the woman. Tell your daughter to do what the other daughter in law does and do what she wants to do, or course have the opinion of the husband. Communication is key when dealing with each others parents!!!

I agree, stand your ground. My own MIL tried the same thing. My family celebrates on Eve and all was fine for quite a few years. Then my crazy SIL’s decided they didnt want to leave their houses on Christmas day so they changed up the whole plan. For a couple of yrs hubby and I would go to my family party, then go to his family party, both on Eve. It was crazy and we were so exhausted. Then we would have to get up Christmas day and see his mother again. So we stood our ground and only did the visits on Christmas day.

We don’t celebrate Christmas so the evil MIL gets NO days. Yay!

I thought you were my mom at first until I saw you were Italian (which I’m not). As un-fun and un-comfortable as it is, your daughter’s family (husband and child) need to take a stand as a family unit. Above all extensions, they need to come first. Then, from there, they need to make firm decisons on how to spend holidays. This MIL, like mine, is overstepping her boundaries and needs to quit being controlling. That being said, she probably won’t as old habits die hard. So, it means that her pouts and hurtful words need to be overlooked. I am dealing with a hurtful situation right now with my MIL (thus why I’m on this site), so I need to find that place in my soul to make peace with me, my decisons and my family (even if my MIL has disowned me once again).

I go through a something like that on the holidays also . I am the only child and my husband has older twin brothers. but my husband is the favorite witch we both cant stand. the holiday are not easy. I gave up on his family a long time ago and we stick with my family on the holidays.. .long story..
a few ideas you can just invite his mother on Christmas eve or Christmas considering she would be alone for one of them and you can bring that part up to her also ..hint hint…so you are doing her a favor. or if you don’t want her around at all you can tell your daughter that she needs to tell her one day either Christmas eve or Christmas day ..or they could go to your house for dinner and to his mothers for dissert for both holidays.

good luck
happy holidays
jenn

I think it is time that your daughter and Son in law start their own traditions as their own family unit. If that means seeing your family on Christmas Day and his on the eve, then that is their tradition.

I think your son in law needs to grow a spine and tell his mother to stop ruining every holiday by berating him and his wife. If she won’t stop, simply don’t visit! Your daughter has hubs problem and a MIL problem because your SIL won’t put his mother in her place. Unfortunately, there isn’t anything you can do about that except encourage your daughter to encourage her husband to stand up for their family unit tradition.

I feel for ya. I have a MIL from hell, and we celebrate the eve with my side and C Day with my hubs’ side. It is usually just his parents and brother, not a big celebration. I want to start our own family tradition of staying home on C day so that I can make a nice meal and the kids can play with their toys. Our son is 3. Next year he will understand about Christmas more and so the tradition will be changing. They can come to us or stay home but I will not be going anywhere on C Day next year.

Let him go see his deamon mother while your lovely girl and the baby come see you guys for Christmas. It’s only fair. She got the Baby on Christmas Eve. You should get him Christmas day. If SIL is going to cow down to mom’s demands on having him there on Christmas Day also, let him go alone!

Hi there,
My children, then husband and I spent 12 glorious years traveling around from one grandparent’s house to the other’s house at Thanksgiving and Christmas. When we divorced, it was the children that went from one house to the other’s. When you marry and have your own family, Christmas day should be at your family’s house. If both sides of the familys cannot come by or schedule their events on other days other than Christmas Eve, well then they miss the whole point of family. Unless they still have young children living at home, they can get out and come to your home to visit the children. It gives them something to do on Christmas Eve and Day and keeps peace in the WHOLE FAMILY UNIT. Both sides. Of course this is just my opinion. We never enjoyed the true spirit of Christmas until the children and both sides of the family realized that making the his side her side gatherings the week before Christmas Day was better for all.