Hatred of one mother in law, one father in law,
by Beartrix on 07/14 @ 10:25pmone sister in law and one brother in law: I love my boyfriend more than anyone, however… looking at his crazed loon family i am constantly reminded ‘the apple never falls far from the tree’and wondering when it is he’s going to break!
This is how it is.. before i met my boyfriend i knew his brother… against all better judgement i went on two dates with him… end of. Only a few kisses nothing else. I met his brother (my now boyfriend) a month or so later, fell inlove but waited a year because of the situation. A year later still very much inlove and the only person i want to be with always and he feels the same way, but his family… oh my… and his mother… oh my my!
I would assume at the age of 21, still young i know, however old enough to lead your own life they would leave alone, see we’re happy or atleast leave us to make our own mistakes. But no. He’s home for the summer and i’m not allowed down to stay at his house, his dad has got him working all summer so he can’t see me (about 7 hour drive) and i’m at the end of my rope!
I know its easy to say but if i had kids i’d leave them in situations like this to get on with it, make life their own and remember i’m only human too so maybe just maybe i’m the one in the wrong but above all other things realise my son is happy, with a good person and surely thats all that matters because lifes too short to fight…. however i firmly believe some mother in laws are just complete nuts or from another planet!
I’m a good girl and i’ve felt guilty about this for so long but i don’t feel that i should anymore, a family hate me when they don’t know me and don’t even want to try. I’m a good girl, never cheated, lied or hurt him, i’m always there for him but none of this registers.
The only thing we fight about is this because like anyone i just want to be accepted by the people i hope to know for a long time and bless my boyfriend for trying, 21… i know he does well for his age! But when it comes to men no matter what age a mummies boy is ALWAYS a mummies boy. The question is can i, or anyone else in the same situation ‘love my lifetime lover enough to live with a lifetime of hate?’
.. Right now I’m not so sure.
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2 Responses to “Hatred of one mother in law, one father in law,”
I hear a lot of guilt in your story… first and foremost, you need to deal with that. There’s no need for YOU to feel guilty for the way others are treating you. But I haven’t really heard how his family has wronged you. It sounds to me like they just want to spend time (and take advantage of) their son. Sounds like he’s off at college most of the time, and since he’s already 21, they won’t get much more time with him.
Pretty soon, he’ll have moved out and maybe far away. When that happens, his significiant other will take priority over his parents, and they need to keep that in mind.
Now is the time for him to prove his priorities. It’s understandable that he is working at the age of 21, really a GOOD thing. Does he work weekends? Can you afford to stay in a motel? I wouldn’t want to stay at their house any way. Hang in there, he will be out of school soon and you can start your own lives together.