Well I guess I’ve always known my mother in law hasn’t liked me but it all really started when we had a date for our wedding. We were just going to get it legalized. Just us and the parents…if the siblings wanted us there fine…if not..no big deal. We had our big wedding plans but were going to save more money for it. So the first thing she says is ” That day isn’t good for me. It’ll be on the 19th instead. ” Ok well I let that one fly by. Then she invites the WHOLE family. After we said no guests…we were going to send out save the date cards or something. So we still haven’t had our wedding because no one wanted to come twice…she knew that and still invited everyone….we didn’t get the dream wedding we wanted because his mom took over…Not that she listened to me when I said stop no and don’t…And my husband didn’t say anything. She showed up at our wedding wearing a black suit…Not just the color black…not a black dress….a black suit…I would have thought she was going to a funeral. In all the pictures she looked like she was going to kill me. Not one smile. So I thought oh well…we’re married now…. So then not too long after that my husband took some really sexy pictures of me. She wanted to borrow his camera and he said no I have some pics on here I want to keep and she said oh just retake them…he asked when and she said after she goes to the gym for a month..then she looked at me..looked back at him and said well 2 months. She knows I have serious self esteem issues and at the time I was only a size 3. Still doesn’t change the fact that I felt like hell about myself. Then I got pregnant and of course she was ALWAYS reminding me of how huge I was…taking pictures of me shoving food in my mouth and posting them on the internet. Then at the very end she took pic of me when I had my feet in the hot tub. I had a bathing suit top on and my husband was rubbing my belly and she just so happened to get some shots…I didn’t realize it and she showed everyone at a wrestling tournament…Again the husband didn’t say anything……..The baby was older and my husband was saying how he was going to die young because he was wrekless blah blah blah and while my mother in law was holding my son she says to my husband ” Well I guess you better figure out who’s going to have the baby because Sarah won’t get a job a take care of him. ” My husband told me not to get a job but to finish my college instead. While we tried to talk to her about it she blew up in my face saying basically I am horrible and never do anything right as a wife or mother. Then a couple weeks ago after my daughter was born before she was leaving the hospital she says in front of everyone wow and all this from someone who didn’t want her…I mean didn’t want girls. How dare she. Of course I wanted her. I was scared of having a girl because of this! Self esteem issues and I’ll be damned if my daighter has to go through what I am right now. My husband chooses not to say anything. I don’t know if it’s because I’m not worth it or he loves his mom more and won’t grow up or what. I don’t usually say anything because she tries turning it into my fault and then doesn’t talk to me for days and tells everyone everything. I don’t know what to do. I want to lose my temper with her so bad but I know it wouldn’t do any good. Any suggestions??
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Her name is Patricia. By day, she is Mrs. Corporate America, by night, she is an “Ann Landers” of sorts. Patricia is the founder of the internationally-recognized website, motherinlawhell.com.
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I TRULY FEEL THAT U NOT STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF(WHICH IS LONG OVER DUE) CONNECTS TO YOUR LOW SELF ESTEEM. THE ONLY WAY YOU’RE GOING TO BE ABLE TO STAND UP TO YOUR MOTHER INLAW IS BY STANDING UP TO YOU’RE SELF FIRST. IN OTHER WORDS; YOU HAVE TO FACE WHAT MAKES YOU UNHAPPY ABOUT YOU, AND TACKLE IT IN A HEALTHY MANNER. ONCE YOU START FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOU, AND BUILD BETTER COURAGE YOU’LL DEFINITELY BE ABLE TO STAND UP TO YOUR MOTHER INLAW. P.S. IT’S PRETTY SAD THAT YOUR HUSBAND HASN’T PUT HIS FOOT DOWN, AND JUST IGNORES WHATS HAPPNING. ANY MAN THAT TRULY LOVES U AND HIMSELF SHOULD KNOW AND ACKNOWLEDGE WHEN HIS SIGNIFICANT OTHER IS IN MENTAL PAIN, ESPECIALLY IF HE’S AROUND TO WITNESS IT! LETS NOT FAIL TO MENTION THAT THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED NOW,WHICH MEANS THAT YOUR MOTHER INLAWS UNTHOUGHTFUL BEHAVIOR WILL HAVE AN AFFECT ON HOW THEY VIEW YOU AS THEIR MOTHER AND FATHER. BE STRONG!
I am in the same boat. But it has come into the air how HIS mother is. And you are going to have to talk to him and tell him how you feel. And if he still sides with her, knowing how she treats you, then just remind him that if she does it with you. Then she WILL do it to your daughter. And is he going to let his mother disrespect and treat his daughter like crap? And if it comes down to it.. tell her that until she can respect YOUR home and YOUR family, then she is no longer welcome at your home!
tTake a bag of food for a donation and drop her off at the pound. Sorry
This mother sounds like mine! just throw her a bone or roast beef and put cyanide inside it and then party after her funeral.
Tell her to be careful or someone will drop a house on her sister!
Tell hubby to poo or get of the pot and do something or you will .