So, I recently got married on August 10th. It was beautiful and everything I could have hoped for! But now, my husband and I are living with his Mom, Dad, and their teenage daughter until we can build a stronger foundation of our own. I always had issues with his mom, ever since I met her. She’s one of those women who thinks everyone’s bussiness is her business and of course, she’s convinced she knows everything. Anyways, the day we moved in, I got so greeting whatsoever. All his mom had to tell me was that I had to give my dog away. He was a very purebred Chihuahua. It broke my heart, but I did it because I really had no choice. No one else could hold on to him for me or anything. Anyways, about a week after living there, she calls for a “family meeting”. And the meeting ended on a bad note obviously. We know owe her rent every month [the agreement was that we didnt have to, so we could save and conserve money easier], but she was mad because we wouldnt put my husband and I’s money in her bank account, where we had NO access to whatsoever. She’s the kind of woman that if shes in a bad mood, then there is absolutely NO reason anyone else should be happy and believe me, she makes sure no one is! Luckily, my husband agrees with me most of the times when his mom acts like a lunatic. Right now, we’re just trying to get out as soon as possible! AND get a new puppy. 
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5 Responses to “EVIL MIL.”
Hi Kaitlynn
It is sad to hear what you are going through, and I do understand where you are coming from. The issue here is that you are on her turf where she has a whole lot of control. It really is unfair for her to go back on her agreement to allow you to stay there rent free. Was she asked why she changed her mind? If she is making you pay rent is there anyway for you both to just move out and get your own place? Unfortunately with your mother in law she is going to do her best at being in control anyways possible. Just make sure to show respect for her in her home no matter what because if you show disrespect she could go crying on her sons shoulder and making you look bad. Trust me, mine does it all the time and we live 1000s of miles away. Once you do get your own place it is important for both you and your husband to set ground rules and he needs to make them very clear to his mom. If she does not like them then she has no business coming over to begin with. I feel for you because this mother in law stress is hard to deal with, but we have to do it or leave out husband.
For about the past few weeks I have been on the edge of leaving my husband because of his rotten mother. We have two children and it makes things even harder. I am having a PI look into my MILs background so that I can take it to court so that she can never see my kids again. Se thinks Im crazy now, wait till the papers get to her in the mail. Of course this is going to take me a while to get all the information I need, but it time it will be done. When my husband was a young boy social services pulled him out of the home because she allowed a man who was not his father beat up on him for over 5 years.
Just keep your head high and be polite with being in her house. You do have the right though to make it known if she says or does something that upsets you, just be nice.
Take Care
Angie
I would work two or three jobs and save every penny I could to move out on my own. Avoid being in her house as much as possible. Any of your personal things that you don’t want her to see, lock in your car. Do your laundry and eat your meals elsewhere. Be polite in passing and don’t share any of your plans with her! Congratulations and Good Luck!
Ridiculous. I would NOT have gotten rid of my chihuahua. I have had chihuahuas all my life and ill tell you what, I would never get rid of any of them. I dont see why you could just keep him/her in your room with pads to potty on. Regardless, that b*tch should be put in her place.
Sorry, but I just cannot stand the idea that you’d give away your grown dog so cavalierly to a shelter or some other place because of her (when you’re paying rent anyway) and then “replace” it with another dog at a later time. If you’re paying rent, why not get a place of your own where you can attend to your responsibility? Dogs aren’t consumable items. I hope you’ll at least consider adoption when you get out of her house. It would be a deal breaker for me, I’d rather live on the streets than let my dogs potentially be put down at some shelter because they weren’t adopted “in time.”
I agree with Betty Lou. For the sake of your marriage, you need to move out as soon as possible. I wonder what your husband thinks/feels about all of this. It’s extremely important that you unite as a couple. Hopefully you and hubby will agree to move out soon. If you’re paying rent to his family, then why not move out anyway since you aren’t saving money. Usually in-law problems aren’t nearly as bad as long as husband and wife are in agreement. When a man marries, he is supposed to transfer his loyalty from his parents to his wife. His behavior has a key role in how well his wife gets along with his parents. It can be really hard for a guy to stand up to his parents and make his wife a priority if his parents are controlling, intrusive, and manipulate him with guilt. The good news is that you can have a GREAT marriage even if your in-laws aren’t so great! I wish you the very best of luck!