I got married 1 month ago. It cost me a fortune and I put a hell of a lot of work into it. Everything went well in the morning. Had loads of fun getting ready and our wedding ceremony was beautiful. Unfortunately it went downhill from there.
This post was submitted by sarahgreen.
so my husband and i have been together for almost 4 years. we just got married last month in september. three days prior to the wedding day, i told her(the worst name i could think of), my mother (who had been driving me up the wall also), and my stepmom(the most sane person out of all of this) that if either one of them didnt cooperate or take a simple picture with someone they may not like or just made a scene to cause attention to themselves (my family is very selfcentered on both sides), then i would tell them to leave before the ceremony even started and wouldnt think twice about it.
so with that being said, it came time to take pictures and we did…kinda….my husband and i took pics with my side of the family and then when it came time to take pics with his side of the family…this is when all hell broke loose. so just a little tidbit about this before i go any further. my dad and mom are divorced and both remarried and so are my husbands parents.
so the photographer calls my husbands mother and father to take a picture with derek. his mother said flat out in front of everyone that she wasnt taking the picture with him.
i overheard and stepped right up.
i went up to her and told her to f****** leave and to do it now.
my husband says i overreacted. i told him about the conversation we had and he still took her side. i asked him to please let me know when he can put me on the same pedastel as his mother who didnt do anything for him, but yet did everything for his two older brothers.
the way i look at it…if my mom, who stole money from my dads prior business, and my dad who cheated on my mom, can take a picture…then by golly george, his mother who beat and cheated on his dad, who didnt do anything wrong to her, can take a picture together.
This post was submitted by Jamie.
I OFTEN wonder why there are sooooo many problems btwn DIL and MIL (and SIL a close 2nd). There are many books written about it and tons on info on the web about it… wish i knew the “dynamics” involved here, maybe it would give us all a lil insight and help us. I have TONS of stories, here are the TOP ones!
This post was submitted by Deborah.
my mother in law has not liked me from the very beginning. in the first year of my relationship with my husband, she tried to hook him up with another woman. she is jewish and i am british, she would always make comments about how cold the british are and how they have done so much evil. then when my dad was sick with cancer, instead of having sympathy for me, she took the opportunity to really be mean. she bought some magazines for my dad to read and instead of handing them to me just threw them at me and walked away. i am an artist and when i sold my first work, she said that the only reason i sold it was because it was a man who found me attractive. she rolls her eyes at me constantly and has bad mouthed me to neighbors. now they act funny toward me.
when my husband had the flu, she accused me that i was wearing him out to exhaustion. i wanted to take his temperature and she yelled you can’t take his temperature. when i have been sick, she will say that is nothing and minimize it. the times i have been stupid enough to engage in conversations, she is either argumentative or plays ind games. she will pretend to not know what i am talking about and she is not any kind of support at all.
i have learned to be careful of what i say and spend as little time around her as possible.
i am a peaceful person that works hard and i believe that if someone is toxic or has issues i should stay far away. anger is a waste of time.
This post was submitted by ruth.
My mother in law and I got along great until the day of my engagement. She lost about 200lbs. and became a nightmare! She was invited to all the planning details (florist, photographer, dj, etc.) and I even invited her to get my gown. She just said no every time. At my bridal shower she tried to wear the same outfit as me. She complained that I didn’t have enough expensive stuff on my registry. A month before my wedding she told me Bin Laden was going to blow up manhattan on my wedding day (a friend in the CIA supposedly told her this, wacko!!!). And then the kicker………. she showed up at my wedding wearing a puffy, sparkly, WHITE gown!!!! All the b*tch needed was a veil and bouquet!
This post was submitted by Elisa.
OK I have just made the biggest mistake ever! My husband and I added a mother in law suite to our home in order to take care of his mother. She is 83 and in great shape and has managed to piss away a very large amount of money that should have lasted her forever. We get the construction finished and move MIL from hell in with us and our 2 teenage girls and what happens next my husband gets called up for 1 year with the National Guard, he is on his way to IRAQ!
we have been married for 23 years. I have never liked my MIL but have been able to keep peace with her as I handle her better than her children! I don’t know what I was thinking when I agreed to this arrangement. I guess I thought she is old and alone and should be around her family. Big mistake! She is meaner than ever, rude and crazy as hell. Please don’t make my mistake!!!!!
This post was submitted by Khead.
My husband and I were married in 2005. We had a beautiful ceremony, and while the photographer was taking pictures, my MIL was literally clinging to my hubby, as if she was saying I’ll never let go. That picture absolutely makes me infuriated every time I see it!!! I truly feel like she ruined our pictures!
This post was submitted by Emily5184.
My MIL gave my husband a picture of him in his tux from his first marriage. When questioned about it she decided to go off on MY mom and ME.
Oh, and she is OBSESSED with my husbands ex, who treated my husband like total crap for 16 years, and who is neglecting their son.
This post was submitted by Catthyahuw.
So, here is my mother in law story. My husband (who’s the only boy in his family) and I got married and I actually got along with my mother in law at first. Then we became pregnant with my son. While I was preggars we went to visit my MIL. We were sitting at the table and I stretched my leg out under the table and accidentally pushed her dog who was sleeping under the table with my foot. She replied, “Don’t kick my dog bitch!” To my amazement, my husband said and did nothing. A little time went on and my MIL decided to pay me a visit. She came into the house and preceded to tell me how unclean my house was and I should hire a maid. Later I had sent flowers to her for a mother’s day holiday for my husband. She then preceded to tell me they stunk! Yikes I can’t do anything right! Seems like I’m trying really hard, but am getting no where fast. Of course, I love my husband to death and would never let her get in between us. So I live in my own personal mother-in-law hell.
This post was submitted by Karen.
OK, I have to relieve some STRESS! This posting is going to be EXTREMELY LONG (longer than any I have read on these sites so far!) and I thank all of you who choose to take the time to read it threw. I need some serious advice to guide me here. I am completely willing to take blame, understand when I have been at fault if someone helps me to see it etc., but in my situation, I honestly don’t think it is me! I have been reading posts from many different sites about horrible MIL’s, and the more I read, the more I believe that I am not imaging things and it is NOT my fault! Anyhow, after saying that, I will take a deep breath and begin hammering out my story in the hopes that someone will either validate my feelings or say, “hey, you are an idiot!” At times it will seem that my posting should not be on this site at all, but rather a site for people with “other” serious issues!, trust me, the only reason I am posting this is because of the MIL issues, I just have to give you a thorough background first!
This post was submitted by tryingtosmile.
My mother in law is psycho. She will lock her self in her room and threaten to harm herself if my fiance doesn’t talk to her once a day. She text messages him about 50 times a day with random I LOVE U’s and always ends it with love mom. We know your his mom and you don’t have to tell us this. Last night tops it all he works night shit from 8pm to 8am well he is going there on Friday (mind us this is Monday night)to go to his DR. She flipped out because we aren’t spending the night at her nasty gross house. She just saw him the sat before for my bridal shower and we went to dinner with her. She went in her room locked the door and popped some pills passed out.Her husband (his step father) then calls and lays another guilt trip on him. All in the time before he has to go to work while we are eating dinner. if he doesn’t answer the phone and talk to her she cusses him out and says he’s doesn’t love her on voicemails over and over. Once said that I was brainwashing him to not talk to her. He was riding 4wheelers with his buddies had nothing to do with me. Told him the she the only one that has ever stuck by him..(excuse me he’s lived with me for the past yr. not her) She’s making it a competition and all I got to say is I have never lost at anything in my life and she sure as hell isn’t going to win this one. I know so much stuff that she does illegally that would take her down so she needs to watch it.
This post was submitted by Ashley.
I can’t deal with my MIL anymore! She’s so freaking insane! She won’t leave us alone! The looney toon isn’t even allowed to be alone, or around, my 3 month old son! After a zillion times of her “promising change” and not doing it, I give up! I refuse to have anything to do with her, and I refuse to let her be a part of my life or my son’s. She told me when I was pregnant that my Mom had no right to be in the delivery room if she couldn’t be, and that my baby was as much her’s as mine. She also constantly referred to him as “her baby.” She uses every excuse she can think of to try and come over or try and get us to go there, only as her excuse to see him, and when we say no, it’s constant guilt trips and cry fits and then badmouthing me! Now she’s having a surgery (for a freaking hernia) and keeps saying she needs to see my baby before the surgery b/c it’s such a major, life threatening surgery…are you freaking kidding me! It’s a freaking hernia! She isn’t even allowed to see her other Grandson b/c of all the crap she’s pulled! She manipulates her Husband and makes it out that she’s always the victim even though she’s the reason none of the family has anything to do with her! She tried to give a 4 week old Baby HONEY!!!!! She also told my friend the first time she ever met her at my Baby shower, that she would feed her (my friend’s daughter) b/c she said my friend didn’t know how! Then proceeded to lecture her about what Formula she was using! I finally had to intervene and let someone else hold my friend’s daughter to keep her away from the poor little girl! My Husband finally sees the true person she is and wants to be left alone by her, but she won’t! She won’t leave us alone! I actually had another lock put on my door, just in case!!! She will NEVER be allowed to be left alone or anywhere near my baby!
This post was submitted by maryb.
I have been with my husband for 5 years. Been married 3 of those years. My mother in law has never liked me. She threw my husband out of the house because he wanted to know who his father was. Yes that’s right he doesn’t even know who his father is. So he came to live with me and my dad. (we had different room) At the time I had just turned 17 and still had a years of high school left. So because my husband (boyfriend at the time.) was working, he thought he would take care of me and pay my school stuff for me. (and that’s because my dad wasn’t going to do it.) My mother in law found out how much my husband spent on me. Thats when it all started. We got married after I finished high school. No one knew we got married except our friends. And not to long after that my dad kicked us out. So my husband called his mom to see if we could stay with her until we found our own place. She told him “Loretta isn’t aloud to stay here because she is only with you for your money.” So needless to say I had to find some where to stay and my lovely husband stayed at his moms. How nice of him huh? So the whole time he was up there, she was telling him to leave me. That he could do better then me and I was only using him for his money. He started to believe her and it didn’t help that I needed money to live on because I had no job. So everytime I would ask him for money to get food, he would get mad. Finally I found somewhere for us to stay since he wasn’t trying. (by the way I had no car to get around in because I don’t drive.) And when we moved in together everything started to get better between me and my husband. I got bored sitting around my house so I got a job. I think at that time, it was the one and only time she liked me. I ended up leaving my job because I got prego and my husband didn’t want me to work. So that is when she started talking shit about me again. And it has stopped. Only to get worst because I don’t work. I just stay home and take care of my son. As if that wasn’t work in its self. If I married my husband for the money, I would love to know where he is hiding it. The thing about it that drives me crazy is, she is the one who married men for their money. She has been married 5 times. What should I do?
This post was submitted by grneyedpriness87.
My MIL has a sneaky way of being evil without anyone else seeing it. She acts all nice and wonderful like she is helping out and doing favors, but stabs me in the back at the same time. For our wedding, she talked us into having it on their same wedding day because nothing else was convenient for HER. So when she got the photographer, she had them take photos of her and her husband for their anniversary, which were put into MY wedding album. There were none of my new husband and I that were as nice as these. Half the album was of them! She also had the DJ do a special dance for them. It was like it was THEIR day, not ours. I told her there is no way I wanted the chicken dance played at my reception. She went to the DJ and that is the very first song he played! Then, she told us if we were to have alcohol at our reception, that not only would she not come, but all of her church friends and family wouldnt be there either-therefore, we had no party. The reception ended at 8PM! Everyone was bored out of their minds. Everything had to be her way or nothing. We had a wedding planner, but she kept putting her down and tried to run the show. Before the wedding, she and my mother, who was a single parent w/ a low income, sat down and she agreed to pay for some things. By the time the wedding came, she took back everything she said and refused to help pay anything. My mother ended up going bankrupt after the wedding. For the rehearsal dinner, which is usually paid by the grooms parents, she decided to become cheap and we had it in her living room where she set up picnic tables and fold-up chairs and cooked pasta! It was so lame! Everything for my wedding was second hand-from garage sales, hand-me-downs, etc. She insisted that we ‘borrow’ the bridal party gowns, so the color had to become the used dress color-teal-ew. She had some left over bows from her garage sale that became the other color. Her daughters weddings had all of the finest things and no expense was spared. She didnt spend a dime for her son if she didnt have to. It was horrible. I hated my wedding day and it is all due to her and her evil selfishness.
This post was submitted by Tracey.
Well lets just start off by saying, I am the mother of the step-grandchildren, and I only wish that my mother in law would be so kind as to even meet my children. My husband and I have been married for going on four years. Considering that we were together for two years before we even got married, one would think that they would have at least wanted to meet them. Have a meal or something. But no the email said that they would prefer to arrange visits when my other children are not home. I was so upset when I first read my husbands email, that I just sort of felt sick and lightheaded. How was I going to tell my husband that after I had been snooping around on his computer this is what I found. Within a few minutes of reading the email, we had to run some errands. Since we were not getting along that day, he took my silence as a sign of trouble. After explaining to him that I was not upset with him, but yes something was bothering me. I took a deep breath then exhaled. Honey I read one of your emails and it was from your mom. When I had told him what she had wrote him, he informed me that he had not even read this e-mail. He reacted quite differently then I had anticipated. The conversation went from him being appalled by what his parents said to how he felt about his childhood. The intimacy between my husband and I grew that day to a whole other level.
Normally I would not have responded the way that I did. But for obvious reason I was so hurt by their requests that I just prayed to god for some guidance. My in-laws have not always been the highlight of our conversations. I tried for so long to impress these people that I just felt so left down. How could anyone bee so cruel?
This post was submitted by Mama J.
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