I have known my hubby for years (25) we became a couple about 5 years ago. His mother lives with us. They argue constantly. With me being the b–ch, or the whore or the thing She is always saying that she is going to get him for abuse when she is the name caller and even throws thing at him
She took a swing at me and i just blocked it. She did a belly hit to him which jerked him back and then forward so that there foreheads hit and she had 2 black eyes. She thinks she knows everything and has done everything She fuels all arguements to keep herself amused and then states she did not do it She hurts everyone!!

This post was submitted by kathy.

There are two sides to every store but since I’m telling it, this is MY side.

My MIL didn’t like me from day 1. I didn’t know why at first. Toward the latter part of our 20 year marriage, I figured it out. I’m not a drinker and the rest of the family is. One time I was out there and I decided to drink with them, I was her best friend then.

This post was submitted by powhitetrashomie.

will make all the other in-laws look GREAT!!!! Sweet and innocent perhaps.

This post was submitted by Mrs. Taylor.

I understand all the things you girls have been saying, but don’t forget the other side.
I have had two MILS from hell. Now, I have a pretty nice one. However, I have learned some tricks along the way.
There is nothing better for a mother-in-law to know that she has caused tension in her son’s marriage. Learn to blow her. However, don’t exclude her from your children’s lives evev if you have to scream in a pillow. Get in her face if you have to and tell her so. She needs to know that she can’t mess with your emotions any more. Keep hubby out of it and remember he is living with a double edge sword too. Mom is mom. I have five sons (five daughters-in-law). Now, I have tried to keep my distance but somehow with my oldest son’s wife I can’t do anything right. I have lost my relationship with him because of her. That’s a lot of hurt for me to bare, and I really believe in my heart that I have tried to be a good mother-in-law. There is an old saying my first MIL would say to me that I thought it was so mean but it showed to be true. “a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life, but a son is a son till he takes a wife”. This has really hung true in my case. I hope this can help you see from both sides.

This post was submitted by Jan.

SNUBS ME! My relationship with my mother-in-law has been an uphill battle from day one! Though it has not been nearly as trying as some of the other stories I have read, some days I would just like to tell my mother-in-law to jump off a cliff! Here’s a little background on my life: I come from a large family. Both of my parents came from families of at least ten. I personally have four younger brothers. My husband comes from an extremely small family. There is his grandparents, his aunt and her two children, and then there is my mother-in-law and my husband. We all live in the same small town. Needless to say everyone knows what everyone else is up to in this small family. So when my husband and I were dating I had met the grandparents, the mom, the aunt, and both cousins. Everyone liked me. When we became engaged everyone was thrilled. Everyone that is, except the mother-in-law. When my husband told his mother that we were getting married she literally beat the crap out of him! He came to me with a torn-up sweatshirt and scratches from his mother! My husband lived with my family for three months before we got married because his mom kicked him out of the house and would not speak to him. Despite all of this my husband still took her a wedding invitation, after all she was still his mother. When we dropped the invite off she was outside mowing the lawn. I, of course, did not get out of the car. My husband just walked over and handed the invitation to her. She took it without saying a word and continued with her mowing so we left.
The day of our wedding she shows up, comes to the dressing room and gives me a hug, tells me I look beautiful, and goes out to take her seat. She stays for the reception and takes pictures all day long. After that day it was as if nothing had happened. She was once again part of our life. She would buy things for my husband telling him it was an early present for an upcoming holiday or something, and then buy him something else on that holiday. At first I just thought that since he was her only son that he had just always been spoiled. Soon I wondered to myself if she was just trying to one up me all the time. I personally believe the second to be true, but I am unable to prove that so we will just stick to the spoiled story. The first winter of our marriage my husband and mother-in-law would go up to our local resort and ski every weekend. Since I did not ski, I did not go. After a few months of being left out, I decided to try skiing again. My new mother-in-law taught me everything I know. She was very patient with me. My husband told me that she used to be a ski instructor. Things were going great for us. My mother-in-law even started to buy things for me too, not just my husband. Then things went rocky. I had sort of had a few run-ins with my mother-in-law, but nothing really serious. She was just really petty about things and it annoyed me. However, for my husbands sake, I kept most of those thoughts to myself.
There are two factors in the reason she will no longer speak with me…the first having to do with a dog that according to her “she and my husband adopted her (the puppy) from the pound.” The reason she had anything to do with it was because my husband and I had decided no more pets for awhile, but he had fallen in love with a puppy at the pound. Since I was still against getting a dog and my husband and I hadn’t really talked about it yet, my husband showed the puppy to my mother-in-law. Of course as soon as she saw it she paid the adoption fee for my husband telling him that if I did not want the puppy that she would watch it for him when she needed to. HA. What ended up happening was she would take the dog soon as she got off work and keep her until way late in the evening, knowing I had to be to work the next morning at 5:30. Eventually I complained to my husband who then told the mother-in-law that she needed to bring the dog back earlier so that we could both get to bed. My mother-in-law immediately threw a fit and said that she would just keep the dog and that we would never see the dog again. My mother in law works long hours at her office, often leaving her pets unattended for up to 12-15 hours per day. (she has two other dogs aside from the one she was now taking ownership of) My husband often had to let our my mother-in-law’s dogs for her because she was not home often enough. My husband didn’t want that harshness for the puppy and by now we were both quite attached to her. The mother-in-law won and ended up demanding all of her (the puppy’s) toys and did just as she had said, took the dog. After that ordeal was over, we were no longer on speaking terms and my husband very rarely spoke to her. She had the locks on her house changed so my husband could not get into her home anymore and kept the puppy in a crate so that he could not see her through the window to check on her. (I did find out that her outburst of wanting to keep the dog for herself was sparked over some pictures that I had posted on my myspace account…I had referenced myself as the puppy’s “mom”)
A while after this had happened my husband’s relationship with his mother was not any better than it had been the night she took the dog. My husband and I started having marriage problems and we separated. Almost immediately my mother-in-law was back in his life buying him things, taking him places, and letting him drive her new car around. When my husband and I decided to work things out and I came home, she immediately cut him off again. She started calling only when she needed something from my husband and that was it. Well, like I have previously mentioned my husband comes from a small family and his grandparents are basically the ones that raised him. His grandparents were thrilled that we were getting back together, as was his aunt. The grandparents decided to have a family dinner and invited all of us (my husband and I, his aunt, and the mother in law) over for a BBQ. Everyone greeted me with a hug, with the exception of the mother-in-law. She would not even look at me, which was fine with me because I wasn’t all that excited to be back in her life either. As my husband and I were leaving later that evening the mother-in-law let a few really snide comments slip about me. The comments were directed toward me, and meant for me to hear, but were said to another family member. My husband and I just left, me not wanting to cause a scene. I was really irritated that his mother couldn’t just be happy for us and so was my husband.
We decided just to take things in stride and so far we have just kept her cut out of our life. My husband continues to talk to her on occasion, mainly when she needs something, but I have no contact. I understand that his mother will always be his mother, but I truly wish she could see how her actions affect her only son and the other family members that she involves. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 and a half years. At this point I truly could care less if my mother-in-law was involved in our lives or not, but what will happen when we decide to have kids? She has a right to be involved in their lives and I would dearly like to have a relationship with her so that she can be a part of our family. I have put forth a little effort since my husband and I reunited, just saying hi and trying to be polite but all I get back is her looking at me and then looking away or just being completely ignored. I can’t help but wonder if I have unknowingly done something wrong, but really I think that mommy just had a hard time letting her only son go and has never forgave me for that.

This post was submitted by Ashly.

My husband was dying last fall. My sister in laws and my mother in law were bickering amongst themselves. One sister in law hadn’t bothered to communicate with my husband for the past 7 years except to complain about our adult (26 years old) son’s email to her (their dad was dying - she hadn’t spoken with him in 15+ yrs and suddenly wanted to submit the obit - of course with her edits). Anyway, they had scheduled trips to see my husband about 4-6 weeks out (separate since they were bickering). I called each of them once I was aware from Hospice that he really had less than 2 weeks and asked them to come together sooner rather than later. His best friend and wife were coming to stay, then our two oldest children - we live 650 miles from our family and old friends. I figured I could have him focused for a few days after our chidlren left. Well I managed to get them to put aside their bickering - they get down to us the afternoon after our children leave. It was just awful. My husband;s youngest sister drinks like a fish, the other sister is critical of everyone and my mother in law supports her girls no matter what. Drunk Sister in law can’t leave my dying husband alone (rubbing his head and generally agitating him after he was comatose) anyway - my mother in law and sister in laws don’t speak to me or my children!! Never did they every give us any sympathy or do they communicate with us now - I was a part of this family for 20+ years - nothing!

This post was submitted by Janeet Sumney.

So, I recently got married on August 10th. It was beautiful and everything I could have hoped for! But now, my husband and I are living with his Mom, Dad, and their teenage daughter until we can build a stronger foundation of our own. I always had issues with his mom, ever since I met her. She’s one of those women who thinks everyone’s bussiness is her business and of course, she’s convinced she knows everything. Anyways, the day we moved in, I got so greeting whatsoever. All his mom had to tell me was that I had to give my dog away. He was a very purebred Chihuahua. It broke my heart, but I did it because I really had no choice. No one else could hold on to him for me or anything. Anyways, about a week after living there, she calls for a “family meeting”. And the meeting ended on a bad note obviously. We know owe her rent every month [the agreement was that we didnt have to, so we could save and conserve money easier], but she was mad because we wouldnt put my husband and I’s money in her bank account, where we had NO access to whatsoever. She’s the kind of woman that if shes in a bad mood, then there is absolutely NO reason anyone else should be happy and believe me, she makes sure no one is! Luckily, my husband agrees with me most of the times when his mom acts like a lunatic. Right now, we’re just trying to get out as soon as possible! AND get a new puppy.

This post was submitted by Kaitlynn Jones.

 Someday She Might Move In! I tell all the young people I work with this, because it happened to me 14 months ago. I haven’t counted time in months since my son was 2 years old. This is truly the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my 51 years of life and I don’t see any legal end in sight. Due to financial stupidity she had to move in with us. I personally think a mother should live with her daughter when something like this happens but she choose us, mainly because my 17 year old son insisted. She never even asked my husband or me if she could, but here she is and let me tell you I have never seen anyone as lazy or selfish as her. Her idea of helping me is to stay out of my way while I do all the work around the house. Of course that’s after I work a full time job as a server in a family restaurant. So after working all day I have to come home and wait on her sorry ass, cook, do dishes, clean, laundry etc… She stays in bed til at least noon every day and stays up til at least 3am watching TV. My place of employment is now my happy place and anyone who has ever worked as a server can tell you it’s not often a happy job. Sometimes after work I just sit in my car in the parking lot for a while because I hate the thought of what’s waiting at home for me. If it wasn’t for my son I might not go home at all. I hope he knows if he leaves home he has to take her with him. I have a lot more to say but I’ll save it for next time if anyone cares to hear it.

This post was submitted by Maryann.

Blah…this just proves how stupid some men are…I hate reading all these stories. I have my own mother in law story….22 years of putting up with the meanest mouth woman I’ve ever met. My husband stood back and let her badger me and belittle me in front of and to the entire family until I couldn’t walk in the room without everyone shutting up. Like someone before me wrote, she is the barometer for the family. No one ever took the time to know who I was in that family. After 16 years of marriage and no support from my husband…I said enough. I wont go there, my children wont go there…and if you go there…well…why should I sit home on Christmas day being punished when she is the one who could never behave gracefully. I didn’t stick up for myself and now I’m just mad about that…I should have done it the first time she sliced my heart out in front of that family. I don’t care what these mother in laws insecurities are…there is no excuse for hateful behavior…it destroys the family and it destroys the heart. I hope there is a special place in hell for these women because they sure make life on this planet hell for those around them!!!!

This post was submitted by Deanna.

I read these horrible mother-in-law stories and speaking as a mother in law wonder how many of them are as bad as the daughter in law states. I have a daughter-in-law who is so jealous of me she does not want my own son to call me or come see me. I stay out of his life because a man should not have to choose between his Mother and the woman he loves. If I even talk to him she raises hell with him for days. So I just want to remind you daughter in laws out there that some day YOU WILL BE A MOTHER-IN-LAW TOO! Pray that your daughter-in-law or son-in-law doesn’t treat keep your daughter/son and grandkids away from you. Not all Mother-in-laws are bad, I had a wonderful mother-in-law who sadly left us eight years ago, I still miss her every day.

This post was submitted by GB Cottingham.

This post was submitted by doesitall.

My husband and I have been together for 18 years and have four kids - five if you count his mother. She is such a shallow, fake human being. My parents taught me to always respect my elders and do the right thing…well, I don’t know how much longer I can be respectful. I gained a lot of weight since I started having children and she’s always made sure not to let me forget it. Each time I was pregnant, she would come into town and she would say that I’m getting too fat and that I use to be so beautiful. Unfortunately, she would always stay with us after each child was born to supposedly help, but really to make me feel bad and point out what I was doing wrong and would not give me any privacy with my children. Well, now she and my FIL moved to the states permanently. They live 5 minutes away from us and I’m going insane! They both show up at my house unannounced whenever they feel like it (when my husband is not home). I live in a ground level ranch home with no basement, so believe me, there’s no where to hide. They come in, sit at the kitchen table and just say and do nothing. I offer them drinks/food and they always decline, so I try to continue my routine with them looking on, but it’s very awkward. When my kids ask me for things and she’s around, I go to get it, then she rudely pushes me out of the way and gets it herself. She always tells me to cut my hair and dye it, she stares at my stomach as if it were a monster (although she’ll get mad if I don’t finish the big plate of food she serves). She likes to insult me in any which way she can, but when my/his relatives are around she calls me these sweet nicknames that make my skin crawl cause I know she doesn’t mean it.
She buys me blouses and jewelry she would wear (I’m 34 she’s 63). Last Christmas, she bought me a long blouse/sweater with pearls sewn on the neckline….I looked at it with horror. Then for new years eve, she wore the same exact blouse in a different color! Now, I think she does this on purpose cause she buys her petite 37 year old daughter jewelry and clothing that is nice. One last thing I’ll mention to show what type of person she is - Last year my 6 year old had to have sensitive back surgery and would have to be laid out flat for 7-10 days. My husband and I thought it’d be best for me and my son to stay with my mom so his brothers wouldn’t hurt him. My MIL offered to stay at my home with the kids and a small dog (I was dog sitting for a brother in the military). After staying at the hospital for 3 nights then on to my moms home she called me there and started complaining that the dog was pooping in the living room because my house was a pig sty. I just started crying cause I didn’t know what to say - then hung up (she gets a thrill kicking me when I’m down). When my husband got to our home she told him that I was not a good mom, wife or housekeeper (granted I made sure the house was in order before leaving). Fortunately, my husband knows what kind of person she is, and yelled at her for being so rude and making me upset. It’s a year later now, and she hasn’t changed a bit. I could go on and on with the horror stories, but it would be a novel by then.

This post was submitted by friosrios6.

My MIL has a sneaky way of being evil without anyone else seeing it. She acts all nice and wonderful like she is helping out and doing favors, but stabs me in the back at the same time. For our wedding, she talked us into having it on their same wedding day because nothing else was convenient for HER. So when she got the photographer, she had them take photos of her and her husband for their anniversary, which were put into MY wedding album. There were none of my new husband and I that were as nice as these. Half the album was of them! She also had the DJ do a special dance for them. It was like it was THEIR day, not ours. I told her there is no way I wanted the chicken dance played at my reception. She went to the DJ and that is the very first song he played! Then, she told us if we were to have alcohol at our reception, that not only would she not come, but all of her church friends and family wouldnt be there either-therefore, we had no party. The reception ended at 8PM! Everyone was bored out of their minds. Everything had to be her way or nothing. We had a wedding planner, but she kept putting her down and tried to run the show. Before the wedding, she and my mother, who was a single parent w/ a low income, sat down and she agreed to pay for some things. By the time the wedding came, she took back everything she said and refused to help pay anything. My mother ended up going bankrupt after the wedding. For the rehearsal dinner, which is usually paid by the grooms parents, she decided to become cheap and we had it in her living room where she set up picnic tables and fold-up chairs and cooked pasta! It was so lame! Everything for my wedding was second hand-from garage sales, hand-me-downs, etc. She insisted that we ‘borrow’ the bridal party gowns, so the color had to become the used dress color-teal-ew. She had some left over bows from her garage sale that became the other color. Her daughters weddings had all of the finest things and no expense was spared. She didnt spend a dime for her son if she didnt have to. It was horrible. I hated my wedding day and it is all due to her and her evil selfishness.

This post was submitted by Tracey.

MY husband told me when he was about 15, his mother and father were having trouble with their marriage . She would go to his room at night and she would talk to him about their marriage including their sex life and lack of! I was sickened by that and told my husband how wrong it was for her to do that. At first he did not see what was wrong with it. My husband is one of 3 and he is the youngest and the favorite so his mother would talk to him as if he was her girlfriend not her son.
I Had to ask him what if I told our child about our sex life how would that make you feel. Then it was like a light went on in his head! He finely saw how wrong it was for her to do that.

This post was submitted by jenn.

Let me set the scene….

Before I met my husband he was married to a person who was and still is mentally ill. He was in the military and on a 6 month tour in the Med, when his ex ran his credit into the ground (over 800 to just above 500), sold 10K worth of his tools and scuba equipment at a yard sale and lost their home and vehicles. He was 40 years old and had been married 3 years and had a young son.

This post was submitted by TheMominator.