going off the deep end

future mother-in-law has done everything in her power to break up my wedding and succeeded in doing so but only temporary. Our original wedding date was cancelled and now we are planning on eloping.He has since,stopped talking to his mother but she insists that I’m not right for him. I have children from a previous relationship and she DOES NOT approve. She loved me at first but has issues letting her children go, one child eloped the other told her to pound sand and married the girl anyway. It’s so bad the FMIL refuses to let her husband talk to his family. The lady makes up crazy stories, lies, pretends to be someone else, got our phone, cable and electricity shut off by impersonating my future husband. And then tells my future husband that I’m the liar. We have the proof of all her tricks and when he doesn’t do what she wants she threatens him again. She’ll drop stuff, say she was wrong when he says he’s done with her but as soon as he doesn’t call her for like a week, she calls him with another threat.

This post was submitted by goingcrazyinma.

I cannot hold it in any longer!

So, my FMIL is ridiculous. The wedding is in 9 days…and I want to scream! First she demanded that all 99 of “her” guests be invited to my wedding, then told me she didn’t see what the problem was. This argument occurred in my driveway while my neighbors were outside! (by the way, my fiance and I are paying for this by ourselves). When the RSVP’s began to arrive she wanted to “see” a list of the RSVP’ers. I knew she was just being nosey so I printed her a list of “her” people that had not RSVP’D. She then got onto my computer to look at the invite spread sheet and told me she just wanted to see who was coming. I don’t see how this is her business. She wanted to wear a dress similar to the bridesmaids, it was spaghetti strapped, chiffon material that cut low in the front and went to her knees. She has told me that she has taken more time off of work than I have, and that she “can’t wait to decorate” I will go crazy if she is there!! I told her that food was not allowed in the church, and she still asked what she could bring for the men to eat. Now, our wedding day is on the same day as her friends and she wants to do something special for her friend. I think I am being gracious by having the d.j. announce the woman’s birthday after all my sisters birthday is the day before the wedding (she’ll be 21) and were only announcing hers. She bluntly told us before we got engaged that her and her husband would not be paying for anything. They didn’t have help so they won’t help us. If she knows how frustrating and hard it is to do w/o financial help, then leave me alone! I will do things my way after all it is my wedding. I can’t take it any more! The whole wedding experience has sucked! Not one moment of it has been for my fiance and I, its only about her………….

This post was submitted by Holli.

Future MIL Holds Engagement Ring Hostage

I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. About six months ago we began to talk of engagement. Around this time, he mentioned it to his mom, who volunteered her engagement/wedding ring to give me when he proposed (his dad passed away several years ago). My bf thought this was great.

BUT…his older sister was getting married in August and he had to wait until after her wedding to propose and give me the ring.

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I’m flushing the ring he can marry his mom!

Hi everyone– needing great girl advice here. I have been with my fiancé for 7 years and we went to middle school together. We have been engaged for 6 years twice.  I know it sounds funny, right??mWell I’m starting to think he asked me to marry him thinking it would take me off the market but let the wedding plans drag. His parents are srict Catholics and always downfall me in front of him and the whole family when there’s a gathering. It seems like they have them to tell me I’m a rude person when all I do is take them back. I have had trouble with them since day one. They like me but when they drink, I’m a loser! I have no family here and I’m planning on paying for the wedding with no help. It’ll just be thrown in our face in the long run. Trust me– been there done that.They want me to become catholic but there’s one thing.  I’m Christian, and we live together and have 2 girls! Duh thought you couldn’t do that. He is the oldest of three boys and I happened to pick a mama’s boy. Why do they think were taking them away? Don’t ask.The wedding date has been put off a few times already because all we do is fight. He really wants to have it out here.  Mind you again, I have no one and they have 200+. He doesn’t want to get married until his mom feels comfortable with me. He knows how she is and his dad too but keeps asking me to please just get along with them. They act like nothing happens the day after. My hopes are falling and he still wants to put off the wedding for a few more years. I will never give them the time of day but would show respect for them at the wedding with small talk. I don’t want to punish his family because his parents are asses. Even talking to him doesn’t work. He says we don’t have the money, time or anything but we shop like no other and were always eating out. I think he really wants me to be friends with his mom like he wants to have her help plan the wedding. What to do… I’m going to flush the ring soon! Thanks girls I feel better =)

This post was submitted by Lani3.

Refusing to let her see my ultrasound

My FMIL is downright mean. I beleive she hates me because i am Native American. We got along great until her other daughter in law spread a rumor that i was stealing from their family business. I have never in my life stolen anything. she is mean to my fiancee as well. I am not invited to any BBQ’s which happen weekly, family gatherings, etc. but my BF is expeceted to attend. I have 2 other children from a previous marriage and am supporting the entire family including my BF. I do this happily. Now after 4 months of trying we are finally pregnant with his first child. She is extremely upset! calls me names and says such terrible things. So since she hates me i dont see any reason to let her see my unborn child and have told his sister (which i knew would get back to her) that she will never see my baby until she can respect me. Not only am i afraid of her but she shook her own grandson whom is only 14mo. there is no way this woman will ever be alone with my baby. She did try to be nice to my childern by buying them toys and then turns around and says her son should be witn a women whom does not have any. (His ex wife was horrible to him) Now his ex fling (before me) is saying she is pregnant with his child, for 10 1/2 months now! His mother is completely supportive of her. I dont care if she does not like me i am more than happy to stay away from her, but i know this hurts him and he is so happy about our unborn and wants to tell her so much about the appointments but cant because I am the mother. She also thinks i’m starving my children because i consider carrot sticks, rice cakes, yogurt, ect. snacks, she wants to know why they dont get soda, cookies and chips instead. uuuugggghhhh Should i just let her see ultrasound pictures of child i refuse to let her hold????

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When will her lies end…hopefully before my marriage!

The day I met her, when she looked me up and down, turned her head and neglected to say hello, I should have known I was in for a long haul. Since then she has tried her best to keep her son to herself. From the stories of all of the ex-girlfriends that were “like part of the family” to the lies she has created in her mind and tried convincing my husband and his family are true. After nearly taring apart my relationship after our first born, I have tried for years to be the bigger person out of respect for my husband and our daughter, but I don’t think I have the stregnth any longer.

This post was submitted by Jamie.

need help to deal with family issues

My boyfriend and I have been dating since 2.5 yrs. We know we want to get married. We have lot of fun together, the only reason for argument between us is his family. He is the only child and he wants to take care of his parents. He lives with them right now and when I get married, i will be moving in with them. But he wants to take care of his other family members (his dad brothers and their family) too. Which is fine with me, but he wants me to do the same thing. He wants me to cook everyday for 4 of us and then take care of house and if something else comes up do that too. He is very touchy on tht matter and whenever I try to talk to him about it he gets angry. We love each other a lot but what he wants from me, is not what I can give him, and he does not understand, and I dont want to lose him nor does he. I have tried to reason with him but nothing has helped. He just doesnt seem to understand as to why am i running from responsibilities. I want a happy family for just two of us and our kids and I guess I have to include his parents, but I dont know how to deal with it? Its like it wont be my house bt “our house”, so that means I dont get a say on what to do in the house and what not. I have to ask my mil for everything. I dont want that? How should I deal with it? My mil does not like me and I have come to know that very well. She thinks I have taken her son away from him which is not true as he is more for them than for me I feel. Please help.

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And SO the Feud Begins

My future mother-in-law called my mother and insisted that I should not wear a white wedding gown because I was impure. For good reason, my mother got defensive and told her that her son was the only one who made me impure and it was none of her business. My mother-in-law retorted by saying, “Now I see where your daughter gets her bitchy attitude from.”

MIL HELL

Well, I am glad that I am not the only who can’t stand their mother-in-law. When my husband and I first got together, his mother was estatic. She loved me and thought he son could do no better. She was sweet as could be until she found out her son was actually falling in love with me. From that point forward, she was was hateful towards me. One day, she cornered me at the place she worked and started screaming. “He doesn’t love you and never will. If think marriage is in your future, you better run along and find someone else.” She said that he will never have kids with me and that he told her that the thought of having sex with me replused him. I knew this was all untrue and she was just trying to protect her baby boy. Much to her dismay, we are happily married and expecting twins. I am never mean to people but this is one woman I don;t have a problem disrespecting!!–Jamie