Boy or Girl!

My first pregnancy and we didn’t want to find out what we were having…and we didn’t, but SHE wanted to know…but we stood our ground and didn’t find out…well, after a very long labor and emergency c-section, we had a beautiful baby girl! When my husband went out to share the news, she made a disgusted face…now she over compensates by coming over and blubbering all over my daughter…and while I was in the hospital, she came to visit and brought HERSELF something to eat…didn’t even call to see if we needed anything….

This post was submitted by Stacey.

The Absent Grandmother…

My MIL has never met me or our almost 2 year old son. She still thinks that the first wife is the only woman for her son and sees me as just being in the way. She also showers the child from this first marriage with love, attention and affection while she has yet to even see our little one.

This post was submitted by girlygirlintexas.

Mother-in-law playing favorites

I have been with my husband for 24 years and his mother is very two-face plus she play favorites with her grandchildren. We have two boys and years ago at my sons’ ball games I had a mother come up to me and ask when are we moving. I told her we are not moving, she replied that my son told her that he was going to be going to another school in 2 weeks. After we got home I questioned my son further about this move and he told me that his grandmother asked him to move in with them and to attend school in their district. I told him no way in heck will that happen. I told my husband when he got home and he blew up,my husband called his mother and told her no way will he let her raise our son and her reply was I will do what ever I can to help my grandson, apparently she thought we were not doing a good job of raising our oldest son. My husband told her if they moved our son in with them behind our back he would call the police to get our son back and hung up. We did not speak to her for weeks.To this day she still favors our oldest son over our youngest son. I’m glad that they now live in another state.

This post was submitted by silentnomore.

My first official complaint

This post was submitted by JO.

she stole my child!

This is horrible! I must be a bad mom! After all the years of trusting my MIL to the point of letting her be part of my DD’s life, she took her from me! My DD and I have been very close, but there has been this “bad” feeling about MIL - nothing abusive or anything just like she wanted to be the mom to my DD. MIL only had boys, and two of them are gay and the other one turned out to be a major loser (the one I divorced 15 years ago!) - so she never had a daughter. I felt I shouldn’t punish MIL for how her son was acting, and I also believe grandma needs a relationship with her granddaughter. I have allowed MIL to shower my DD with lavish gifts partly out of guilt because I felt sorry for her and partly because she enjoyed doing it. Maybe I should have not let it happen. I’m so hurt. DD turned 18 two weeks ago and she just up and moved in with MIL and won’t talk to me. Now, let’s back up 15 years  to give DD’s bio dad (MIL’s son — no I never remarried) was abusive, unfaithful, drunk, and got into drugs. I left him so he had nothing to do with DD and I NEVER got any support from him. Yet his mom seemed to want to make up for her own son and I felt sorry for her and allowed it. I have been a fool! MIL is telling DD that I refused to let her biological dad have anything to do with my DD — WHAT THE HE**! He NEVER came around or saw her and wouldn’t work. I never really knew where he was anyway. I am a nurse and I didn’t need his support. I have been financially stable on my own but he would work “under the counter” for cash and move all the time. I’m heartbroken. DD says I was wrong, and I tell her it’s not true and she actually said her grandma wouldn’t lie about that! Then MIL says “Your mom is wrong” I’m angry too! What happened here?? DD hasn’t talked to me. She just LEFT and took her stuff.  Everyone says, “oh, she’s 18 - she’ll get over it”, but grandma tells her that she will take care of her and won’t make her do what her mom (me) makes her do (like chores, pay for her own gas and earn money). So, my DD is spoiled now. I’ve felt like grandma and DD have been keeping a secret from me for the past several months - now I know the truth. I’m so hurt. Is my MIL the only one who has done this? Geez…

This post was submitted by Freckles.

My MIL is a Grandmother from Hell!

Gosh! I am so glad I can vent to other people about my MIL problems. Other people I talk to have rather normal relationships with their MILs. Sometimes I feel like I want to pack and move far, far away! Seriously, I am about to lose it! My husband and I have her only grandson. He is only 16 months old. My MIL is a total freak when it comes to him. Let’s just start with that she is a compulsive spender. We have every toy known to man, clothes you wouldn’t believe. Really ridiculous. On top of that she wants to call me at LEAST 3 times a day. She wants to come by when it’s convenient for her NOT for our family. She like to just “drop by” and if I don’t answer the door, she starts walking around the house looking in the windows. She likes to force her new loser husband and his two kids on me and my husband which we are not fond of at all. She makes comments that she wouldn’t have married him if she knew her grandson was coming along and she is totally miserable with him. Then she expects us to accept them as family at family events. Weird huh? Last Christmas I made a mistake and told her what I was buying Landon for Christmas, which wasn’t much since he was only 8 months old. She goes behind my back and buys everything. She like to comment on how much Landon looks like her. For instance, “My baby is so pretty, he looks just like me.” It make me want to vomit. But in reality Landon looks a lot like his mom and a little like his dad. Last but not all, she likes to buy me things so it makes me feel obligated to her. A real control freak. Lately, she offered to pay our lake privilege dues in our neighborhood so she can have get together with her family at our house. (She is calling me right now about it!) I have a hard time confronting her with all of this and it builds up to where I explode (not good). My husband ignores all of it but she is not calling him all the time. If anyone can relate to some of this please, I am open to any suggestions. whew!

This post was submitted by kms154.

She’s insane!

I can’t deal with my MIL anymore! She’s so freaking insane! She won’t leave us alone! The looney toon isn’t even allowed to be alone, or around, my 3 month old son! After a zillion times of her “promising change” and not doing it, I give up! I refuse to have anything to do with her, and I refuse to let her be a part of my life or my son’s. She told me when I was pregnant that my Mom had no right to be in the delivery room if she couldn’t be, and that my baby was as much her’s as mine. She also constantly referred to him as “her baby.” She uses every excuse she can think of to try and come over or try and get us to go there, only as her excuse to see him, and when we say no, it’s constant guilt trips and cry fits and then badmouthing me! Now she’s having a surgery (for a freaking hernia) and keeps saying she needs to see my baby before the surgery b/c it’s such a major, life threatening surgery…are you freaking kidding me! It’s a freaking hernia! She isn’t even allowed to see her other Grandson b/c of all the crap she’s pulled! She manipulates her Husband and makes it out that she’s always the victim even though she’s the reason none of the family has anything to do with her! She tried to give a 4 week old Baby HONEY!!!!! She also told my friend the first time she ever met her at my Baby shower, that she would feed her (my friend’s daughter) b/c she said my friend didn’t know how! Then proceeded to lecture her about what Formula she was using! I finally had to intervene and let someone else hold my friend’s daughter to keep her away from the poor little girl! My Husband finally sees the true person she is and wants to be left alone by her, but she won’t! She won’t leave us alone! I actually had another lock put on my door, just in case!!! She will NEVER be allowed to be left alone or anywhere near my baby!

This post was submitted by maryb.

SHE WORE A MINISKIRT AND CORSET TOP TO MY BABY SHOWER!!

The main reason I have a distaste for my MIL is because she gave birth at 16 years young and then simply dropped off my boyfriend at her mothers (his grandmother) house. The funny thing is that she would rarely drop by and buy him things to compensate for her lack of parenting/absence. Finally, when he turned 17 years old (after we had been dating for two years) she decided to move him a hundred miles away from our city to hers. She must have felt this would make her a good mother or something. Whats worse about all of this is that my boyfriend/the father of our son, thinks she is the BEST mother ever. A few days after arriving in their new city, me and my boyfriend got into a fight because we missed each other so badly, and she grabbed the phone from him and told me that I was not allowed to talk to him anymore or she would press charges because I was 18 at the time and he was still 17! I was irate! Thats the most preposterous conniving thing anyone has ever said to me, plus its ignorant because there is no law stating that we were not allowed to date each other. ANYWAY, thats the main reason, next is because she dresses like a hoochie mamma/thinks she still got it. She is not attractive at all and she wears FAAAARR to much makeup. I am disgusted to say she wore a miniskirt and corset top (with her breasts spilling out of it) to MY BABY SHOWER!! She had not even met half of my family yet! how innapropriate! Whats worse is that she takes her dog with her everywhere (its not a cute little dog either its a HUGE one) and she of course HAD TO bring it too, along with its 100000000 hairs that I had to clean from wherever she decided to go. While I was pregnant, I recall visiting her and being very hungry, it is a city I am unfamilliar with (LOS ANGELES) so I was not about to go out on my out searching for food (plus she only had cereal in the ENTIRE HOUSE). I asked my lover (her son) to take me to get something and she was angry because she wanted to go to church with him and told me “YOU CAN EAT CEREAL”. Then I said I dont want cereal and she told me “well you are not his responsibility you two are not married!” WHAT A *&*@#$% I was sooo upset because I WAS PREGNANT at the time. MY BABY NEEDS TO EAT!! Boy was I fuming! Thank GOD he took me to eat. he actually had respect for me unlike her, she couldnt even take care to feed her guest.

This post was submitted by Blanca.

Babes in arms

My husband had gotten a phone call from his mother, saying that she never gets to see her granddaughter. ( She lives 20 mintues away, goes by my house to get to work) Well she called asking if she would be able to take her for the weekend. No problem. I pack a bag for my daughter (she’s 10 month old, so there is ALOT of stuff) It was friday and they said that they would bring her back Sat afternoon. No problem. I was working and so was my husband. I had made arrangements with MY father to be home to answer the door when she got there. I lived in an apartment building. At 3 pm i get a phone call at work that there is no one at my house to get my daughter.. and they aint’ waiting around so they bring her to my husbands work. He was working at a mall at the time. And its Christmas season. In the mean time i have called and my dad answers the phone asking where they are. THEY NEVER SHOWED UP! They drop my daughter off with ALL HER stuff car seat and everything, and left her with my husband. I had to get of work early to go and get her. Oh and did i mention that i was 7 months pregnant at the time also. I don’t drive and we didn’t have a car. so i had to take a bus home. With all her stuff.. and my purse.. and its a saturday. and allllll the kids are on there.. and no one moved so i could sit or even put her on the seat.
so i was standing holding her in the air in her car seat. Got home. was starting to have cramps. ended up being false labour. and was in the hospital for a day to make sure.. hubby called to let them now what was going on.. and when he told her that it was because of them leaving my daughter at the mall and I had to take her home. They didn’t respond only said it wasn’t their problem..

This post was submitted by Lisa.

A MIL’s observation of her grandchild

I walk in my Mother-in-law’s house with my four-year-old daughter. My mother-in-law immediately examines her. After scanning her from head to toe she grasps the skin on one side on my daughter’s ribs and says, ” Gosh, she’s skin and bones. All she needs is mucous running from her nose with a swarm of flies around her to complete the picture.”

There was no smile as if it was a joke. This is just one of the many comments she makes about my mothering skills.