Because I know how hurtful it is for my husband to hear his mom constantly makes me feel inadequate for everything and anything towards me, I want to make my son in laws feel like they are a part of this family and that what they say does matter. That saying blood is thicker than water is nonsense. Even a doctor will tell you thick blood is unhealthy. I may not agree with the choices my son in law makes but it is my daughter’s happiness that matters the most. I raised my three girls to be strong healthy woman and realized there are no strings connected. When it comes to love, no strings are necessary. Don’t get me wrong - I will be there if my daughter’s need me but I will let them make that choice, it is not mine to make. They are free people as God intended us to be. I have no difficulty to tell my son in law that I love him and am there for him too, as I have become his other parent in law.

This post was submitted by Brat.

Well, dealing with my future mother in law and father in law will never be easy but luckily my fiance sees his parents faults and agrees with me about all my complaints about them.

This post was submitted by becka.

I have had two. At first it was good then at some point~ they flipped! Well, I am now a mother in law to three. I took notes from the two I had and stay out of their business. I let them know that as long as you see your children happy and there are no signs of depression, it’s all good. However, if the time comes that some type of abuse enters their relationship, then you step in with your full armor….and I mean armor! It’ all good. I get along with both my sons in law and my one daughter in law. REMINDER….TAKE NOTES FROM THE EVIL MOTHER IN LAW ON WHAT NOT TO DO OR HOW NOT TO ACT!!!

This post was submitted by MARY.

No matter how true these things are, it’s still his Mom. Who he loves.

She has driven a rift between our brother & sister in laws marriage, and I refuse to let her do that to us.

This post was submitted by have_tried_everything.

I am currently in the process of trying to get out of here. I can’t take the abuse from my husband or his mother anymore. That’s my goal– to get me and my baby safely out of here.

This post was submitted by mohrade.

I have been with my husband for 16 years married for 10 of those years. I married her favorite son (she has 3 )my husband is the youngest the older 2 are twins. my sil even said to me “I feel bad for you because you have her favorite son. my hus is not a momma’s boy but she tries hard to make him one. I have let her in too many times just for her to stab me in the back! she is nice to my to my face and talks about me behind my back to my sis in laws and I am sure other people.
when my sil married my b.i.l my mil sucked up to my sil right away because she would be the first to give her grandkids she said. and my sister in law said she was not going to house to house on the holidays so after that my Mil invited all of my sister in laws entire family to all the holidays so My husband and I had to see her mom ,Grandmother, brother witch was ok but she also invited her aunt cousins and one year even a friend of a cousin!! and my husband and I had to go house to house while my mil sucked up to her even before she had kids. When I told them we were going to have a baby my mil sucked up to me. after 15 years of forgetting my birthday belittling me and saying a lot of hurtful things when my husband was not around. she starts sucking up to me when I have something she wants ! what a beach! she takes care of my sil 2 kids . my husband and I have watched her and my f.i.l take care of them and we agreed that nether one will ever be taking care of our children for a number of reasons including the safety of our children. I am very lackey my husband sees what is going on with that. my s.i.l even has told me that she does not like things that our in-laws do with her kids but she feels that she cant say what she feels because they watch the kids for free. my thought on that is their your kids she should have the right to say what she does not want and what she wants. my s.i.l has made her bed on that one she let my m.i.l take over her kids my s.i.l is lazy and does not want to be a mother to those kids .and one day my m.i.l said to me I would not be a good mother because I yelled at my cat for scratching my furniture .. sorry don’t mean to rant) their are so many things that my m.i.l and my s.i.l have done to me and said to me that I have not talked to anyone else but my husband and my mom about .and I know my husband gets tense when I talk to him about it. he feels guilty that its his mother causing me so much hurt and his is not one for confrontations .I know his family thinks I am a beach .someday I think they think I am one I should just be one.
I just want to stop caring what they think of me and stop looking for their acceptance!!!

This post was submitted by jenn.

Well girls, I have a different story for you all!!! I AM A MOTHER-IN-LAW. After reading the horror stories I feel I have to show the other side. My son who is 32 is the love of my life,HOWEVER, I knew that some day he would find his mate and I would no longer be #1 on his list—-and I understood this. I have told him many, many times over the years, WHO HE COOSES TO SPEND HIS LIFE WITH IS HIS CHOICE. He and my daughter-in-law have been together for 7 years, I have 2 beautiful grandchildren ages 5 and 2 (she turned 2 today!) and I can honestly say tht I have NEVER EVER ONCE stuck my nose into their business. There have been and will continue to be rough spots, and if my son wishes to discuss a problem with me, I allow him to vent WITHOUT manking any comments one way or the other—even though I sometimes have to bite my tongue. (He is not fautless, believe me) If he ASKS my opinion THEN AND ONLY THEN will I offer it—otherwise I just keep my mouth shut. There have been times when I want to say something, but I don’t. I love my daughter-in-law as if she were my own, and she takes wonderful care the the chidren. They are always clean and fed, and she has taught them good manners, and they eat well—very litle junk food. people are flabbergasted, when the kids are at a party. When they go to the dessert table, they both go straight for the fruit bowl, and will turn down frnch fries for cherry tomatoes, celery and carrots! This is because Kristin has taught them right, from the beginning! When she started them on baby food, she started with vegetables and meat products instead of the sweet stuff.

This post was submitted by Pat Murro.

Hello Ladies,

About nine years ago, I launched a little website called themotherinlaw.com. What started out as way for me to reach out to other women who were dealing with mother-in-law issues quickly grew into a daughter-in-law sanctuary of sorts. The website found a way into the homes of women all across the globe. Some women just needed a place to vent while others were experiencing much more severe issues and needed help and support. Women from India were dealing with dowry abuse, a Chinese woman was forced to be a servant to her mother-in-law, and the stories just kept rolling in. Our community even helped repair a few mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships. I was happy to be able to provide a safe place for daughters-in-law to express their feelings.