Mother-in-Law HELL

Well, here I am almost 2 yrs into my marriage with my DH, and I still haven’t been able to really connect with my MIL. I feel as if, I can’t trust her due to some things she said behind our backs while we were dating and engaged! My DH asks me to be more “open” and to communicate more with his DM, but I can’t bring myself to! I refuse to call her mom, or anything similar to that, and yet I hate feeling like there is a rift between us. I guess, I always wanted to have a good MIL, and someone I could trust, but unfortunately, this is not her! My question is this-should I bring up these past issues with my MIL? Should I try to level with her and tell her why I feel so hesitant about our relationship? I know that in my DH…

Hello Ladies, I’m looking for advice, prayer, mentoring, inspiration, whatever to help me get through this difficult time that seems like its NO WAY OUT!!!!
OK, I’ve been married for 3 years, before getting married my mother-in-law and I had a good relationship. It wasn’t until we had to live together that the good relationship went bad. Two months after getting married my husband and I moved out of our tight apartment into a rental home. At the time his mom lost her job and apartment so we asked her to move with us to help out with the children (seeing them off to school & getting them in the afternoon). My husband and I never got around to enjoying the “newlywed” feeling because there was so much tension within the house and ALL of it was a result of her living with us & interfering in our life. 1) His…

Today I went to a family reunion on my MIL’s side. Overall, it was a good experience. Then my MIL and two SILs wanted a picture of ‘the sisters with mom.’ And of course, they asked me to take the picture. I gracefully took the picture, with evil thoughts of cutting off their heads in the photo. Similar events have occurred in the past. ‘All’ the girls went and got professional pictures taken, except for me. They take vacations together, go shopping together, and do all the fun things that moms and daughters do. Sure, MIL does things with my family and my kids. She even watches my kids for a couple hours every day when I’m working (with pay, so as to make sure she doesn’t feel taken advantage of). But then, when discussing her death, my MIL and SIL agree that I should not be allowed to help…

Step daughter told her how bad I was and my kids. We are no longer doing holidays or anything with the inlaws. My step goes there all the time and when she comes home, I always have to explain something that she said to her grandma about me. She is only ten. My hubby won’t stand up to her and now he is beIieving it all. I am ready to leave. Help.

This is a sad post, really, as I am not sure what to do. My mother in law doesn’t like me because, basically, I am not Catholic or Republican nor Italian….Anyway, she has not been very kind and loving to my husband ever since we have been together either (now almost 9 years) because of me. But recently my father in law passed away and she is left alone in a rural location. As far as I know, she has no friends and my brother-in-law, (who also hates me for the same reasons) who lives right next to her treats her as though she doesn’t exist. So, as far as I know, she is alone and sad every day and that makes me sad, despite her coldness towards me all these years.

I have invited her up to see us numerous times, but she ignores me. We had to be in…

Well ladies here it is. I am 24 weeks pregnant and just had my first baby shower with all of my most favorite ladies. My girlfriends that live far away came in town for the special event, sisters and my mom. It was a fantastic day. When we decided on who was coming we wanted it to only be the young chics my mom being the exception but she is young at heart. My MIL was freaking out because she had not received an invite yet and thought that we had forgotten about her. In return I said “sorry but it is only going to be my girlfriends and sisters and my mom will only be staying for a bit she is baby sitting my nephew.” I left it at that and felt that was kind, to the point and how else am I going to get her off my…