Mother-in-Law HELL

I know this is about MIL’s but I have a major father in law issue too. My husband and I got married last may(09). He and his family are very strong christians. I never grew up in a religous household.  To put a long story in a nut shell, the reception they had for us was the 2nd worst day of my life after my dad dying when I was a little girl. The whole dinner was about my husband.  Everyone wanted pix with just him, his family sang a song just about him, his parents flipped out because I just wanted it to be us at the head table. And to make things worse, all our gifts and cards were addressed to him. His girl cousins mocked me. And then his parents, specifically his dad said that I’m disrespectful to their family and walk all over everyones feet.  Bottom…

My husband and I have been together for 8 years…married for 2…we have a little boy that is just amazing…

Anyways imma rewind this back a few years…

04-05…I get pregnant…tradgedy strikes and we lose the baby…
my sister in law comes to my work hateing on me because she believes we had an abortion! NOT TRUE….she threatens me humiliates me and just leaves me speachless in front of about 30 customers…I just cryed I was shocked

06-07 hubby was deployed…Iraq…15 months…during his r&r…my sister in-law tells my husband he does not have a home with them  if he continues to be with me…I DID NOTHING WRONG SERIOUSLY…I DIDNT SAY A MEAN THING TO THEM…NOT ONE…DID EVERYTHING I COULD TO BE THE SWEETEST GIRL POSSIBLE…

07 hubby comes home from his 15 month tour in Iraq…I had to drive from cross country with his mother…uuugggghhhh…mind she is a smoker and I wouldnt allow smoking in…

Well, I am new to the site and am so glad I joined in. My MIL is driving me crazy. My mil spouse is away overseas for a year without me and the two little ones. We decided to take this chance to live near his family… Bad mistake, his MIL recently lost her husband and is deciding to pick on me since he went back from midtour. She is turning the whole family against me, attacking me verbally when we are alone, and then telling everyone that I was mean to her. It is refreshing to hear all the other stories of similar MIL’s but I really need some advice too. I am almost ready to pull my kids out of school and move away till he returns this summer. Comments?

My husband left for officer candidate school over five weeks ago, leaving me to deal with my in-laws.

The back story:

Before he left, I hadn’t spoken to them in over a year. This was the second one year stint where I had not had any contact with them. The first year was when we moved in together, my husband and I had a fight (definitely his fault, I would admit if I were wrong). He left for a few hours, stopping at his parents. I dropped my house key, called him to come home and let me in (my midterm project was locked inside), he said ok, never showed up. I waited for five hours outside our apartment. A few weeks later he came clean and told me his mother told him to leave me (I should mention our fight was about his not holding up his end of the rent,…

She constantly hangs on him and scratches his back. She treats him like he’s a baby and he’s a grown man already. I feel like I can’t speak up. When our child was born she commented on how the baby had this and that from him and even some of his sister’s traits but what did I give the baby? Hello? I made it too! My husband is graduating from AF Basic Training and he only gets two days to see his newborn and his wife before leaving again. MIL called and told me about plans at her place for a BBQ when my husband has planned all along to spend it alone with me and baby. Well, when I told her this, she did not like it. She said he needs to see his sister. (She’s a grown woman with a family too) I am frustrated because we have…

I’m just venting so, please, bare with me.

I met my husband when I separated from the military and came back to my home town. He to is also in the military. We hit it off and started dating and soon to took me to meet his family. Everyone was so nice and welcoming… then I met his mother. She didn’t even say “Hi” to me and totally ignored me the whole time. I asked my husband (then, boyfriend) why she didn’t say anything to me and he said she was really shy. I accepted that since my best friend is shy beyond belief and I could relate.
The next day, he proposed and I said yes and that night at dinner (a place we picked but she complained about being there the whole time, but when asked where she wanted to go, she said “I don’t care, I’ll eat where ever…