Mother-in-Law HELL

I know this is about MIL’s but I have a major father in law issue too. My husband and I got married last may(09). He and his family are very strong christians. I never grew up in a religous household.  To put a long story in a nut shell, the reception they had for us was the 2nd worst day of my life after my dad dying when I was a little girl. The whole dinner was about my husband.  Everyone wanted pix with just him, his family sang a song just about him, his parents flipped out because I just wanted it to be us at the head table. And to make things worse, all our gifts and cards were addressed to him. His girl cousins mocked me. And then his parents, specifically his dad said that I’m disrespectful to their family and walk all over everyones feet.  Bottom…

Hubby and I met when we were young, but his crazy, alcoholic parents quickly made it clear that (for some reason) he could either have me or them … he refused to choose, so they threw him out, and we had years of harassment and crazy, out-of-this-world behaviour from them … we FINALLY managed to move away, and now we are safe (veeery far away, and we now know our legal rights), but we would like to send Christmas/birthday cards to relatives (it was only hubby’s parents who abused us) .. especially his two sisters who are heartbroken about losing him, and his lovely aunts … we’re not sure whether this is a good idea? I don’t see it is bad, as it shows them what we want to show – we remember them/care for them/didn’t want to lose them/etc .. do you all think it’s OK? We won’t give…

My boyfriend of 3 yrs is a great guy he is wonderful but there is one issue HIS MOTHER and FATHER!!! I Grew up in a single parent home my moms WAS married but divorced the jerk but now his family is telling me that I have no family values because of my mother… His mom even stated when we were first dating that he was not to marry me!!! Who says that?! Another thing is I have tried to give them beautiful gifts that are expensive for a college student..But they just say my gifts are cheap trinkets. Another thing is I have a stalker and his Father wanted all the control that my mom had I was like Im 19 I can take care of it..but his dad said that my mother a feminist bitch wouldnt know how to take care of his son? I was like wtf…

Ok I just moved back to my hubby’s home town last year literally right around the block from his whole family particularly his parents. So once we had the baby they decided it be ok to just pop in unannounced so there would be days I would be asleep trying to catch up from sleepless night with the baby and my mother in law would ask, “What is wrong with her, she isnt going through post partum depression is she?” How could this woman not get I just had a baby and havent slept all night and had I known they were coming over I would have got up and ready for company. Not to mention the times I would be breast feeding and they dont knock or ring the door bell just walk right in and go, “OH” so sorry we didnt know you were feeding her…DUH! Maybe if…

How to avoid blood shed with the in laws?
I have been with my B/F for 7 years; we bought a house together 5 years ago and have a 2 year old daughter (MOO).

My problem is his family, apart from one sister who is cool. The other sister and his mother just do my head in. Prior to the birth of Moo, they never visited or included us in family stuff and that was fine with me. Now we are suddenly expected to go to things, they often make arrangements and then change things at the last moment, and basically they display poor manners generally.

When I am in either of their company I feel judged, ignored and then dismissed. They have never really made much of an effort to get to know me and as a result I have always had an internal dialogue of they are idiots, what the hell…

My husband and I have been together for 8 years…married for 2…we have a little boy that is just amazing…

Anyways imma rewind this back a few years…

04-05…I get pregnant…tradgedy strikes and we lose the baby…
my sister in law comes to my work hateing on me because she believes we had an abortion! NOT TRUE….she threatens me humiliates me and just leaves me speachless in front of about 30 customers…I just cryed I was shocked

06-07 hubby was deployed…Iraq…15 months…during his r&r…my sister in-law tells my husband he does not have a home with them  if he continues to be with me…I DID NOTHING WRONG SERIOUSLY…I DIDNT SAY A MEAN THING TO THEM…NOT ONE…DID EVERYTHING I COULD TO BE THE SWEETEST GIRL POSSIBLE…

07 hubby comes home from his 15 month tour in Iraq…I had to drive from cross country with his mother…uuugggghhhh…mind she is a smoker and I wouldnt allow smoking in…