Mother-in-Law HELL

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years, and are beginning to look at rings, and all that jazz. I have always wanted to be close with his family… He is an only child, so I tried to make it my mission at first to be BFF with his mom.. His dad is a sweetheart, as are his aunts, cousins, etc. His mom is very cold, and also kind of obsessed with BF in a sick way.

She calls him ALL the time. She asks about everything from her printer, computer, refrigerator, sink, spoon, etc. I think she makes things up to talk to him. I try to rationalize it that she feels she is losing him- but then she does things to really hurt my feelings. She tells her hubby if BF doesn’t respond to her calls ASAP or emails or texts and FFIL gets on…

When I met my FH, he mom was serving over in Iraq. We have been together 6 years.. His mother cannot stand me and has made it very clear!.. She invites his ex gf (they broke up 8 years ago) to everything. One Christmas, his mother stopped me and said that the ex would be attending Christmas dinner with them, but she would make sure to call me first so it wouldn’t be weird for me! The ex and I never got along but we always tolerated each other to keep the peace. THEN, he had a terrible accident and was in the hospital for over 2 weeks. His mom actually invited the ex gf to the hospital and had me escorted out of the room so the ex could spend time with him! I was outside crying when his mom came out and told me that I need to…

I need help ASAP before I go nuts! I currently live with my fiance at his mother’s house. We are trying to save up to buy a house next summer. MY FMIL is divorced, and very lonely. She has a couple friends, but they do not get together very often. She tries to tag along with my fiance and I on every date, and comes into our bedroom (we have the whole basement) to “hang out” with us. Although we get along great, and she’s a nice woman, I do not want to hang out with her ALL the time. I feel like she is the third wheel on our outings, and I feel like I am in a relationship with my fiance and HER (closer than I would like!). My fiance is 28 years old, and his mother seems to have an unhealthy attachment to him. She cries when…

I’m getting married in a few weeks and absolutely everything has gone perfectly since the engagement with one exception, the MIL, surprise surprise. She’s caused so much drama and fights its unbelievable, the biggest of which was that she wanted her daughter to wear a dress that had been made in mock image of her grandmothers wedding dress that also happened to be in the wedding colour. I cracked it a few months back and have refused to have anything to do with the MIL & SIL since, its been very peaceful. But a few days ago I noticed the MIL had put up a new profile picture on her second facebook account (she has 3 by the way) it’s of her in the dress she intends to wear to the wedding. Now my mother and my fiancés stepmother have both picked beautiful elegant flowing dresses for our old world…

I can not stand my mother in law she throws pebbles my way on a daily first time she heard me and my fiancee were dating the response was “Oh no you are not dating her are you serious you deserve to be with a model” all I could really say was oh wow because I guess the 10 yrs of modeling I did werent good enough the second stone she threw was “I want all white grand babies” I blew up and she hadnt met me she didnt even know me I am mixed but I dont see color like wtf ya know but I guess she does once again she threw a pebble but this one was more like a stone “I would prefer you be with your previous girlfriend” ouch that was the last straw so last year christmas time I went to their home state to…

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. And this will be our second set of holidays together….except last year we didn’t see one another from the beginning of Christmas break until his birthday new years eve. We didn’t get to spend Thanksgiving or Christmas together….and it sucked! So this year we have tired to start early to start planning for how we can spend the holidays together, and his mother is not exactly making it easy.
If we suggest going to my house for Thanksgiving she gets mad because we will miss out on her family’s thanksgiving, if we suggest going on Christmas she gets mad because he won’t get to see his little sister (who is 10) open her gifts from Santa. I’m stuck on what to do. I don’t want to completely give up my family holidays, but I want to get to spend…