Well, I have been married for 4 years and since the day I said I do, I have had horrible experiences with my mil. I even went so far as to find a counselor to help me deal with my issues with her. Everything I have read had lead me to believe that I can’t change her, I can only change my reactions to her, so A thousand dollars later, I am in the same position with her. She acts like I am invisible, lets my kids disobey the rules and bosses my husband and I around. Did I mention she is my husbands boss as well? Anyway, much to my surprise she bought the house directly behind us (we will share a common fence) and I am going out of my mind trying to figure out how not to end up in an episode of “Everybody loves Raymond”. This weekend we had a major falling out and I am at the point where I can not deal with it anymore. How can I survive her living next door? It will make it really hard for the kids and I to take breaks from her when she can see us from the back window. The worst part about it is that she joked with her friends about how miserable I would be and funny she thought it was. Arg…. How do you distance yourself from someone who has made it nearly impossible to do?
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Her name is Patricia. By day, she is Mrs. Corporate America, by night, she is an “Ann Landers” of sorts. Patricia is the founder of the internationally-recognized website, motherinlawhell.com.
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9 Responses to “Anybody else’s mil moving next door?”
if you can do it I would move is she going to follow you wouldn’t that be hallarious a week after she moves in she will see a 4 sale sign in the front of your house do it for a joke let her think your selling it I would pay to see the look on her face GOOD LUCK mine live 1 min away and thats bad
My mil lives with me. I marred her son 16yrs ago and 5yrs ago she moved in. She think she runs thing and talk to my youngies son like durt. She has push all me buttons to broking point were i can not stand her. How do I handled this.
I live next door to my mil. We have good and bad days at least you have a fence to keep her on her side…..mine constantly berates me about my yard ( she is a crazy OCD weed puller and cleaning fanatic)….always look at the positives…at least she is not living in the same house as you….(sorry nicegirl)…..chin up and good luck…
what the heck does your husband say about this? Does he care that his mother is driving his wife crazy?
hey, my mil lives next door to me as well. you can read my posts under crazy women and crazy women stikes again! just try to set up the boundaries asap. mine pretty much leaves me alone, and she never had anything to do with my daughter since she was born, even thought it is her only grandchild. sometimes just the threat of her watching you, or coming over any time she wants is enough to drive you crazy, i know how you feel. just take up for yourself and kids no matter what. i hope this helps and good luck!
One way to avoid being like “Everybody Loves Raymond” is to KEEP YOUR DOORS LOCKED! I never understood why Debra never just locked the darn door to keep her crazy MIL and FIL out.
I know that won’t solve everything, but at least if she shows up unannounced she can’t get in unless you let her. Good luck honey!
You should be mean to her too, “jokingly ofcourse” like, man I wish you’d choke on this chicken and die!!” and then laugh like “HAHAHAAH! just kidding, you know I love you, MOM!” and then talk to her so much that she gets sick of you…
Oh it cracks me up that you mention “Everybody loves Raymond”. My sister and I joke that my MIL and FIL are like that w/ my husband and I. You can read my post under She’s Jealous of her own son.
Good luck - but if I were you, I’d find a babysitter, go out for drinks w/ my husband, and have a long, long talk.
Funny that I stumble across this post. I am BUYING a house a block away from my MIL. 2 counties currently separate us, but DH and I decided the timing was right to buy the house we want to retire in now because of the market. (He has less than 6 years till military retirement) I am going to be living alone while he’s on deployment with her around the corner….am I freaking insane??? I will DEFINITELY be locking my doors:)