We’ve been married for 5 years. Among the nasty things my MIL has said about me, to my husband, behind my back:
- “She’s stuck up and flashy.” This after she saw my engagement ring, which is less than 1 Carat.
- “She’s hard to please and demanding.” Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!
- “She doesn’t care about your happiness.” Because I don’t want my husband to buy everything he sees. He’s an only child, and his mother spoiled him rotten in that department.
- “She rubs her paycheck in your face.” I have NEVER done that! Although I earn more money than my husband, I don’t happen to care.
- “You should never have bought that house/moved to that city/bought that car/taken that job/hired that contractor/planted those flowers, etc.” The woman has an opinion about everything, and it’s all negative. “She MADE you do that!” I’m to blame for everything, apparently!
It’s been a fairly steady stream of trying to undermine our relationship behind my back. To my face, she’s nothing but peaches and cream. My husband has merely turned a deaf ear to his mother, instead of telling her off like I wish he would.
Well, now I’m pregnant for the first time. The baby is going to be the first grandchild. Now she says to my husband, behind my back,
- “She doesn’t know anything about being a mother.” Gee, that’s helpful!
- “You’re not going to use cloth diapers!” The last time I checked, she doesn’t have rights to that decision.
- When she found out I intend to breastfeed, she sniffed, “Well, just wait until you find out how hard that is.”
- When she found out I intend to use day care: “I hope you know that your child will always be sick from all the other kids’ germs. MY son was never in day care. I worked odd shifts to watch him. You’re supposed to do whatever it takes to protect your child!” At least she said that one to my face.
I could go on and on…in fact, I’m sure I’ll be back to share more once the baby is born! Wish me luck and thanks for letting me vent!
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5 Responses to “All The Things She Said!”
Does your DH tell you these things? They usually don’t repeat what their Mommas say. You can just tell by their actions. I’m shocked. Perhaps he secretly dislikes her too. Wants you to kick her butt. LOL
LOL! I couldn’t help but chuckle when I heard what she was saying! If I had her for a MIL, I would have made sure she would have known my personal opinion of her thoughts everytime! What do you do? I would have told her off, but I wonder if that would have worked with someone like that! I don’t have kids yet with my husband but my MIL treats my husband like a child. He is 32 and she still makes him lunch all the time and does his laundry!!! The laundry stopped a while ago, but not the lunches! She also calls him 2-3 times a day… I just found out tonight. Anyways, I am curious to know… I know a baby is a huge thing and I would probably go out of my mind knowing that my MIL might act like the way your MIL does.
Yup, DH told me almost all of these things–a few I overheard when I was in another room–MIL is VERY loud. I couldn’t tell her off–it would start World War 3, and I’d rather keep peace, especially w/baby on the way. It wouldn’t be so bad if DH would tell her off, but he’s super close to his parents–calls them 2-3x/day also!! HA HA something to add–she bought me a bunch of disposable diapers–”Because you’ll really need them”–even though we keep telling her we’re using cloth! Oh well I’ve stopped arguing with her. At least it’s not costing me any $$$!
I guess if you can let it roll off your back, that’s best. From my experience, don’t hold it all in, you will explode someday. I’d give the diapers to a charity. Good luck sweetie.
Oh my goodness!! My MIL must have a son I didn’t know about and you’re married to him. I heard..”son , when you were little I used to clean the ceiling fans every Saturday.Madeline doesn’t do that”. “I used to lay my husband’s clothes out every night..Madeline doesn’t do that”.
I recently lost 50 pounds, she called and said “I’ve known you as a fat woman and a skinny woman and I like you better fat. I just always want to be littler than you. I asked my son if he cares if you’re fat and he doesn’t so you might as well quit trying”.
Sometimes i feel like i must be crazy. That someone cannot be that insulting and rude. I hate the person I become when she’s around.